[Frustr8ed]

OMG!! A perfect example of actions speaking louder than words. I would say her heart was definitely not behind what she said earlier. Kind of like an alcoholic telling you how they are going to stop drinking and then walking over to the fridge to get a beer.

[Guest]

I have been with my husband 11 years and I have always had a greater sex drive than him. But after having kids, its gotten worse. He is content with having sex in the usual way once a month. I would like it a couple times a week. In my 30s now, I am feeling more sexually open and want to explore more. He, on the other hand, doesn't like change. I've tried to suggest different things, I have sexy lingerie that he likes, but nothing. He is just content cuddling while I want sex - any type of sex.

There may be some medical issues as he is a lot older than me, and he was talked about it, but getting him to see a doctor about it is another matter. In the mean time, I am completely frustrated. My last thoughts going to bed and first waking up is sexual. At work I am constantly fantasizing. I have started watching porn, even though I don't really care of it. Its hampering my ability to function properly. I don't know how to deal with this. Masturbating just doesn't give me the same satisfaction. If anything, it just makes me hornier. I need to figure out a way to handle this sexual frustration so my days aren't obessed over sex and can function more efficiently.

they say a womans libido increases when she hit her 40's

[Guest]

well yesterday was our 7ry Anv. I offered to take her anywhere for the whole weekend, she didn't want to do anything but go out to eat. Saturday she got sick at her stomach so no sex Saturday. Yesterday she woke up with her Hips having muscle spams. Took meds, went out to eat. About 3-4pm we had a conversation about how happy we both are with our relationship. She openly admitted she knows that she is letting me down when it comes to sex and she would try to go out of her way to do anything to help me. If was a happy, calm, laughing out loud, joking type of conversation. I applogized for things that were my fault over the years, told I loved her and wished I could go back from the time we met. I love her more today than I ever thought I could love again. I have been heartbroken before and was very protective when we first met. Last thing I said was "even a blow job or handjob if we can't have normal sex would be very grateful for me." She hugged me laughing told me "you blew that one, last time I did that you told me my teeth hurt". My response was "bleeding should have been proof enough you were raking your teeth on me".

Said she would see what she could do later for me. we went to bed, she "changed" shorts and sat without anything on her bottom, so I crawled across the bed and started kissing her thighs. I got a firm push of the head to get away, I sat back and looked at her. " I didn't say I would try tonight" Kissed me on my forhead and pulled her bottomed up and pulled covers over her body. "good night"...

I rolled-over and laid there 2 hours trying to figure out what I misunderstood and what to do next. Hurts..... sometimes women just do NOT understand the need of touching and having sex....

thats crazy if a woman is not felling it than I prob wont do it cuz i want her to enjoy it as much as i do