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  • KelseyAnn
    Junior Member
    • Jan 2012
    • 2

    Girl on top help!

    Hi everyone! Ok, I've only been having sex for a couple months now. I love my boyfriend and it's been pretty great so far. I love trying new things and I'm learning what I really like. BUT I have the biggest problem with being on top! Sorry to be graphic but when I'm on top I would just up and down and it felt natural. But my boyfriend said no, let's try this- and he would use his hands to guide my hips like back and forth. He said it feels so good to him, but oouchh! It felt so unnatural. The angle or something is all wrong no matter how much I try adjusting myself. I'm definitely not doing it right because it honestly feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Or it feels like his penis is going to snap in half. LOL. I tell him this and he tries to help but it's so wrong. Then I get so frustrated and not in the mood anymore because I feel like I don't know what I'm doing Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Any advice please!!
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    Try both cowgirl and reverse cowgirl to find something that is good for him and good for you at the same time. There are some girl on top sideways positions, too. Some require a rope from the ceiling or some other form of support.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • KelseyAnn
      Junior Member
      • Jan 2012
      • 2

      Hahah ok I'll just go get a rope for support.
      Anything else that is actually possible?

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      • Tod121
        Senior Member
        • Feb 2011
        • 125

        Have you tried the reverse cow-girl, it might get the angle right for both of you and doesnt need anything other than the 2 of you!

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        • a_dub
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2011
          • 514

          Question: why would girl on top feel unnatural when he's guiding the action but OK when you're moving up and down? The mechanics and geometry (angles, shape of his stick and your hole haven't changed). It might be a matter of perception alone.

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          • LilahX
            Veteran Member
            • Jan 2010
            • 291

            Are you staying upright or leaning forward? Try leaning fwd so yr bodies are parallel, weight supported on your elbows of hands and just move your hips.

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            • faybee
              Junior Member
              • Apr 2012
              • 7

              my husband loves when I am on top and I am facing his legs, with my hands on his legs moving forward and backward...not up and down. Can't hurt to try. If doing it his way is not hurting you...then just do it. Sex is give and take...you do for him & he does for you. Just enjoy it.

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              • faybee
                Junior Member
                • Apr 2012
                • 7

                besides, if he says it feels good, then you're doin it right. just relax.

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                • AshB$
                  Veteran Member
                  • May 2011
                  • 272

                  When I first lost my virginity, I was on top. I was on top the first 3 times.
                  The second time is when we really did it. In the back of his car and I sat on his lap facing him. Since I was knew to it, it hurt anyway. But my boyfriend did they same thing and went back and forth and it hurt soooo bad! So you are not alone, my dear! Even when we do it today, months later, and he makes me go back and forth, it still hurts pretty bad! I know he likes it, so I let him do it a little, but it does hurt pretty bad.
                  I have a feeling penis size could have part in this. Idk the size of your boyfriend, but my boyfriend is huge. And with going back and forth, there's not really anywhere to go, so I think that's why it feels so unnatural.

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                  • kathyn
                    Member
                    • Jun 2012
                    • 38

                    Be super careful with woman on top sex as this is how most penis fractures happen.

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