[Maximus]

Before getting into any stereotyping of men, it's good to note that he has been a real gentleman so far.
Meaning he hasn't pushed in a direction you didn't want to go and waited until you were ready.
At least I am assuming this is the case given the time you have been together, and the level of intimacy you have had.

If he remains true to himself, as I hope he does, the sex won't be sex, but rather love making.
A man who loves a woman doesn't see the same thing as you.
The same way you say he is gorgeous, while he sees himself otherwise.
Your flaws ?! I doubt he will see them, let alone thinking you have any !

And I would render out any idea about performance.

The best gift you could do to yourselves, both, is to learn, discover the right way, and that transcends any thoughts of not being good enough, etc...

[Guest]

Well, we men find all sorts of things sexy in you girls! We need to find you generally attractive at the outset/first meeting. We like your hair, your soft skin, your eyes, body shape-yes. But then we are interested in your voice, your mannerisms etc. Are you feminine enough etc etc.The woman could be the most gorgeous barbie doll in the world, but if they opened their mouth and spoke with a bad accent, that would be a turn off for me for example. So,in short, it's the whole package. My guess is that your guy has already gone past these stages and finds you very attractive. Unless you have very bad personal hygiene, or anything like that when you get down to sex, don't worry. Enjoy it and he will enjoy you! x

[Goodgirl93]

Before getting into any stereotyping of men, it's good to note that he has been a real gentleman so far.
Meaning he hasn't pushed in a direction you didn't want to go and waited until you were ready.
At least I am assuming this is the case given the time you have been together, and the level of intimacy you have had.

If he remains true to himself, as I hope he does, the sex won't be sex, but rather love making.
A man who loves a woman doesn't see the same thing as you.
The same way you say he is gorgeous, while he sees himself otherwise.
Your flaws ?! I doubt he will see them, let alone thinking you have any !

And I would render out any idea about performance.

The best gift you could do to yourselves, both, is to learn, discover the right way, and that transcends any thoughts of not being good enough, etc...

I can tell he's sexually frustrated....Well more so just really anxious to please me.He tries SOOOOO hard to get me to relax and give in,and slowly but surely,I am

No matter how "agressive" he gets with me when hes turned on (wich i love),I know that when we do have sex,It won't just be sex...It will b love making,and hopefully very fun :P

Well, we men find all sorts of things sexy in you girls! We need to find you generally attractive at the outset/first meeting. We like your hair, your soft skin, your eyes, body shape-yes. But then we are interested in your voice, your mannerisms etc. Are you feminine enough etc etc.The woman could be the most gorgeous barbie doll in the world, but if they opened their mouth and spoke with a bad accent, that would be a turn off for me for example. So,in short, it's the whole package. My guess is that your guy has already gone past these stages and finds you very attractive. Unless you have very bad personal hygiene, or anything like that when you get down to sex, don't worry. Enjoy it and he will enjoy you! x

Nah,Hygiene I do not fear,I can't even go a full day without at least one to two showers. lol

On the other hand,I am not a very feminine girl....I'm a bit of a tomboy which is weird cause he likes girly girls....but hes dating me...the kind of girl who would rather be on her dirt bike than getting a manicure. LOL

[Goodgirl93]

As others have said, he will be more worried about his performance than he will be inspecting every inch of your body. He is going to be worried about satisfying you so you will want to do it again. He may even be thinking about something completely different so it doesn't end too quick

We are kind of worried about that...lol,Me being a virgin and all,and he hasn't had sex in months,5 that I know of at least.He told me he'd use this numbing cream that I have for deep throating and put some on himself to last longer,But I don't think that would be the best idea...cause I want him to feel it too! haha. On average it takes me 10 minutes or so to get him off with my mouth and hands,so I don't know how long he can last,he isn't sure at this point either.

[Goodgirl93]

UPDATE:

Soo,No sex. We were planning to have sex but there were wayyyy too many interruptions so we could't really get much accomplished.The joys of living at home with parents....Mind you,my parents don't even know that I have made out with him,So we have to basically be sneaky about anything we do....I guess you could say that's disrespectful but I don't really have any better ideas right now.

Anyways,I ended up getting scared again,So he decided to be a meany and cut me off from any oral to him until I let him try at least one thing on me...And that worked to be honest. lol He had me relax and kiss him while he rubbed me,wich we have never done,But I ended up not being able to stay quiet so I had him stop.

And I've realized...EVERYTHING you all have told me is more than true!! When I was giving him a handjob he kept kissing me and telling me how beautiful I was and that I was perfect. After I finished and cleaned up,I talked to him about how it bothers me that he's dated all skinny girls,and me being the first thick girl is a lot of pressure to take on. Then he called me his little barbie doll and kissed me I mean I knew what you guys told me was most likely true but dang...It made my night haha.

Quick question, Every time I do give him oral or a handjob,I always swallow,I've never asked him if he prefers me to swallow or not so I figured he must like it? I don't know,Do a lot of guys like when a girl swallows? lol

[kristalyn_04]

Quick question, Every time I do give him oral or a handjob,I always swallow,I've never asked him if he prefers me to swallow or not so I figured he must like it? I don't know,Do a lot of guys like when a girl swallows? lol

Many guys do like it Gigi, it's a sign that you're really into him and want to take all of him (in his mind lol). But, most will also be fine with you not swallowing if you don't want to, so it's really up to you. The best bet is to just ask him.

[Goodgirl93]

Thanks sweetums!

We need to talk about alot of things so I just might squeeze that question in there. lol

[kristalyn_04]

We need to talk about alot of things so I just might squeeze that question in there. lol

Uh-oh... is he in trouble already? Lol jk...

[Guest]

Where women see bumps, bulges and imperfections, the men who love them see nothing but curves!

This a a great environment in which to ask questions about practically any subject matter, as long as you are aware that there are men in here, myself included, as well as women.

All of whom are here to try and help.

[Guest]

Yes, my friend above is right. What we men love, in a nutshell, is that your bodies are different to ours, you have bumps in different places and you smell nice (mostly). We love the differences.