[Stillness]

How much of your fantasies do you share with your partners?

Do you mean fantasies of stuff I'd like to try or stuff that I'd never do in real life? The first I share. The latter I don't.

[rcoreyus]

I think it is good to accept your SO's fantasies, and to encourage them to tell you. That doesn't mean you need to ACT on them, but knowing what they are, and making them feel free to tell you seems important to me. As long as there is an understanding that some fantasies are just fantasy, while others are things you might actually want to try, I think it's all fine.

Of course if their fantasies are really abhorent in some way and they actually want to act on them, that is different.

[LilahX]

You should know if your partner would or wouldn't like to share these sort of thoughts with you. Personally I think the more honesty about sexual matters in a r/ship the better but it does depend on the degree of trust you both have, that you can be open with judgement. Fantasies can remain just that, or they can be explored in reality (with a lot of discussion beforehand). Do you fear judgement if you shared your wilder thoughts? Perhaps you'd be surprised and your man might love the fact that his lady has a wild side.

If you don't verbalise your thoughts well you could write them down and let him read them, or suggest reading some good erotica together which could lead to further discussion. It's a shame you feel awkward about all this but do persevere, it can only bring you closer.

[Stillness]

Anybody who's ever stuck their foot in their mouth knows that some thoughts are much better kept to oneself. I don't want to know my wife's fantasies if they're too wild. And I've had the experience of answering her question about my attraction to a family friend (one which I would never act on) that drove her crazy (in a bad way).