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  • poohbear2711
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2012
    • 1

    My Boyfriend has a hard time cumming what do I do?!

    My boyfriend and I have recently run in to a problem, He has a hard time cumming during sex I've tried everything I can think of and it's never been a problem before! I've tried dirty talking, different positions, blowing him before, I've even tried giving him a massage before to relax him and he isn't jerking off so idk what to do! it's so frustrating for both of us cuz I love it when he comes in me and he's not stressed about me getting pregnant so i'm totally confused at what is going on! and we've tried talking about it and he doesn't know why he can't someone please give me advice!
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    What is his general health and age? Could he have erectile dysfunction? Too much porn? Unfortunately you being disappointed will feed his mental block that is probably at least part of the problem. Is he willing to keep trying after a break in the bedroom?
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • DreamP346
      • Oct 2011
      • 2053

      Lot of times inability to cum is mostly a mental issue. He may be thinking too much about lasting long enough, making sure you orgasms, works stresses, etc. Just relax and don't make his not cumming a big deal. Continue enjoying sex and it will more than likely go back to the way it was before.
      Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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      • sexmonsterrawr
        Junior Member
        • Apr 2012
        • 8

        My fiance has the same issue sometimes, and its definitely a mental thing. He worries about too much at times. What I find works is stopping and taking a break and then me taking control. Usually that has helped us gl

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