[welsh-girl]

Hi everyone.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and for some reason, i'm still tensing up my pelvic muscles when we're about to have sex. I will eventually relax once he's inside but before then, it can be a bit painful.
I have recently had a vaginal swab test and cervical smear test and both results are normal so i know there's nothing medically wrong with me.

I do have a very loving and patient boyfriend but this tesing up really gets me down Is there anything i can do or try before sex to relax a bit?

[GoLeftThenRight]

If you can obtain a drug called Skelaxin, that would do it! But that might be harder to get

I'm not a medical expert,but it sounds like you have some anxiety about all of this. First, you could try exercise and physical activity before hand and then a physical massage, followed by a glass of wine, and if that doesn't work, you might try seeing a therapist. It's probably just that you're very nervous about this...Nothing to panic about, but definitely something to address.

[DreamP346]

Lots of foreplay. Try orgasming before he penetrates. That will really relax you. Have him go down on you first.

[jns]

sp346 has it right. Does he know how to bring you to orgasm manually or orally? Several orgasms before penetration will be good if he can help you achieve them.

[welsh-girl]

We certainly do alot of foreplay before hand. Something i thought might be causing this is because my boyfriend is quite a bit bigger than my ex (girth), it hurt a bit the first couple of times we had sex. I think from time to time i still get a bit anxious about it hurting even thought it won't.

[GoLeftThenRight]

I think your bf would be flattered to hear you say that, and as I mentioned, anxiety probably has some role in the matter.

Relaxation is key. Try communicating to him your need for relaxation and the reasons, and I'll bet he helps quite a bit..You're obviously very concerned about pleasing him..

[shoshannah]

My boyfriend will often finger me before he enters me. This helps me to relax as well as get excited. having an orgasm before he enters me is another good idea which I agree with. It relaxes me and gets me ready for intercourse.