[Joe77]

You've probably seen a couple of my other posts. I'm just picking brains for info, nothing more or less, so as to gain a better understanding of the different ways that women experience and enjoy sex. This may help me as I work to slowly open my wife up to more conversation about possibly exploring her sexuality a bit more.

I'm pretty sure she dislikes oral being done on her, so...if you're a woman that does not like to recieve oral sex, would you be willing to answer a few questions? Whether you like to GIVE oral or not is irrelevant but you're welcome to share. If you do like recieving oral you can chime in too, of course!

1. Why do you dislike it? Is it the feeling? Do you find it gross or the idea of it unpleasant? Does no man seem to know how to do it? Is it just not your preferred method to reach orgasm?

2. Can you reach orgasm in any way? If so, what? If no, do you still enjoy sex?

3. Do you consider your libido high, medium, or low? How often do you have sex of any type (not just intercourse)? How often would you have sexual relations if you could choose and you had the time?

4. Is sex important enough to you that if a partner who was otherwise perfect had little to no interest and was unable/unwilling to change that, would you consider ending the relationship?


Any other info you'd like to share??

Thanks!

[ItsASecret]

1. Just not a favorite. It is a weird feeling if I had to pick a word lol, not a gross feeling but weird or different I guess I would say. I do not even come close to orgasm from it, I just accept it as a method to feel good but not in a sexual orgasm way I guess. So relaxation more than anything.

2. I can orgasm, not through oral though. During sex it takes a lot of pressure on my clitoris from my fingers while slowly grinding him on top and raised a bit...I cannot sit flat because he is a bit too big down there. No other way for me to orgasm during sex. It also takes a very long time, none of that 30 seconds and done stuff...more like 10-15 minutes of strong pressure. There is no possible way that feeling can be mimicked during oral hence no chance of me finishing through that way. But orgasms are not a requirement for me to feel good during sex. I still very much enjoy sex I just do not need an orgasm to happen.

3. Low in the sense that sex just is not on my mind that much but I do still enjoy having sex. No fantasies, no go-to thoughts either so my arousal is based on him touching me. I give oral more often than anything. It takes me awhile to become aroused and all loosened up for sex do oral for him is simply easier to do if he is needing a release. I have no issue giving him oral should he want it. If time permitted then maybe 2 or 3 times a week. Right now it is at about once a week.

4. I would not end a relationship over sex nor would I ask to go outside the relationship, just not that type of person.

[PinkySweet]

Hm, I use to dislike oral when I first started having sex. Mainly because it just felt awkward to have someones head between my legs and then Id feel self conscious about if I smelt or looked weird down there or something... After awhile I lost the self consciousness and started enjoying it. I LOVE it! I usually achieve orgasm from oral, much more than penetration.

I would say maybe your wife doesn't like it because it feel awkward to her, or shes self conscious about you being down there.

[DreamP346]

1) Felt I was dirty down there unless right out of the shower, and the idea of putting your mouth there grossed me out. Also, partners didn't really know how to bring me to orgasm. They did what worked for their past lovers, but those techniques didn't work on me. I hated giving a guy head, so felt if I got oral, I would be obliged to return the favor. Don't like the taste of myself on my man afterwards.

2) Oral is the easiest way to reach orgasm with a partner. They are more powerful than through intercourse. But I miss the interaction with my partner. Oral is almost like masturbation. I am alone taking pleasure. I like the touch of the other person right next to me, not just between the legs. Oral has to be followed by other activity like intercourse or other body touching.

3) I think I have a medium libido. Have issues with my husband's being lower. I would like at least 3/week but would have no problem going every day (except during period).

4) Depends on the point of the relationship. If I was at the beginning of a relationship, yes, sexual compatibility is on the top 3 important list. But if you are married with kids, then you just have to work it out.

I am much more open to oral sex now (both giving and recieving). I enjoy it alot with my husband. It has a lot to do with being with somebody you love. I never loved any of my previous sexual partners. For me sex is a lot about giving pleasure and my husband really gets off making me cum. Knowing that, I can enjoy. I never knew that to be the case with previous lovers.

The other part is just sexual maturity. I am open to a lot more now than I was when I was younger.