[SaharaJim]

Too explicit? Sorry!

[rosekitten]

Oh... so much fun!

Safe words were already mentioned, but if you're trying to surprise him, it may not work out well. Now, you could blindfold him first, sit him on the edge of the bed, and secure his ankles. Ask him if he's okay with it, and if he is, demand a safe word. Tease him until he gives you one (my husband couldn't think of anything, so I gave him something silly to say as punishment). You can buy "vanilla bondage" sets at places like Adam and Eves, and they come with a silk blindfold and silk restraints (just two, though, as I recall, it's been a while).

As far as the suggestion for a vibrator goes, only you know how he would feel about that. Since this is a surprise, don't do anything that would cross any lines you haven't truly explored yet. My husband enjoys it, but we've also talked extensively about it, and I know exactly what he wants. If you haven't talked about it, it might be going a bit too far for him to enjoy.

I did a surprise domination on my husband when he came home for R&R. Getting him going strong and bringing him back down will frustrate, and let him know that you have all the control. Demand favors from him, and if he doesn't, then punish him appropriately. You know what would work best on your husband. It can be anything from denying stimulation, to denying him doing services on you. Anything that will let him know he's in trouble, and you're better suited to make that sort of call than any of us are. If you think he would enjoy spanking, get a nice paddle, flogger, or crop whip. If you do, though, be sure to practice a bit with it first, and always start soft and work up in intensity, just a little at a time.

Also, you can try some over the door cuffs. You may actually have time to order some decent velcro cuffs (I can provide some websites, if you want). They are soft on the inside, secure to the strap, and the velcro makes getting them off very simple. It also provides a level of trust, from both. You can use the velcro cuffs on him, and leave him be for a bit. If he truly wants to be dominated, he'll stay where he's told and not get out.

There's a whole lot that "domination" can mean to a person. He may just want you to physically pounce him, mount him, have your way with him, and that be "it" for the domme aspect.

[SaharaJim]

Rosekitten certainly has some excellant suggestions. Since you said he wouldn't like anything going up his rear; I was suggesting threatening such an act only (maybe later after you have really talked about it in a neutral situation-certainly not as a part of the original "scene".) If he as successful as I would imagine about bringing your orgasm with the oral domination you could (without freeing him) reward his efforts by mounting him cowgirl or reverse cowgirl and riding him to orgasm- or maybe almost and stop for several times...); maybe "punishing him if he orgasms too quickly for your "satisfaction". Rosekitten has good suggestions on that...maybe bring a ping-pong paddle and warm his rear' stomach or even face if you can be VERY careful not to injure. But slapping will work just as well with less chance of injury and better "feedback" on how hard you are "slapping". Get more "miliage" out of your scene by rehearsing it mentally several times with slight variations; before doing the "real thing". I would bet he will replay it "several" times when you are apart again.(snicker).

[rcoreyus]

The way to "punish" him for finishing too quickly is to stroke him immediately afterwards - most men are insanely sensitive after they orgasm. One form of domination is to tell him that you are going to stroke him continuously for 20 minutes - whether or not he finishes during that time........(make sure he's well tied up).

[PinkySweet]

I love all of your suggestions

Yeah hes made it clear hes like me to tie him up and such. I wont be doing anything to extreme that we will need a safe word. Id like to think Im very intune with what he likes. Rcoreyus, love the idea Ive done that before while I was riding him... he was going wild lol...

Hes okay with slapping as long as its not me intentionally slapping as hard as I can.

Ahhh Im so excited only 8 days until hes home.

[SaharaJim]

I love all of your suggestions

Yeah hes made it clear hes like me to tie him up and such. I wont be doing anything to extreme that we will need a safe word. Id like to think Im very intune with what he likes. Rcoreyus, love the idea Ive done that before while I was riding him... he was going wild lol...

Hes okay with slapping as long as its not me intentionally slapping as hard as I can.

Ahhh Im so excited only 8 days until hes home.

He is a lucky man Pinkysweet. But i think you might want to "reconsider" the use of the "SAFEWORD'. It is always hoped that the use of it will not occur. But it is in place for the UNEXPECTED. Suppose some unforseen illness or condition strikes? Suppose a rope pulls to tight and cuts off circulation?( I strongly recommend a book on knot tying or even ligatuer...a half hitch, bowline are good..any type of "slipknot" is bad). When a person is "restrained"; they are to a great extent "helpless". You as the "dom" are responsible for their safety. Would you really want to try to explain to the police that your SO was a willing participant in the game which resulted in "injury or death"? You have to realize that it can happen and totally unexpectedly. It is why gags and such are seldom used. It removes the sub's ability to alert the Dom that there is a problem.
The SAFEWORD does not guarantee safety..it just provides one more tool to provide it.
Do you really want to be sitting there kicking yourself because you didn't use every means available to provide a safe experience? 8 days? a short time but an eternity!
ENJOY..and as I said- he's a lucky man.

[PinkySweet]

Yeah. I just don't want to give away the surprise, so maybe while I'm about to tie him up Ill tell him about having a "safe word." I will pray nothing goes wrong though lol.

Yeah it seems like times moving as slowly as it can

[rcoreyus]

A safeword is always a good idea. You can tell him as you are tying him up. You probably never have to use it, but there ore the occasional stories where one person thought they were playing and the other felt like they were being raped.

The other safety tip is make sure you have a fast way to un-tie him. A serrated knife or something to cut the bonds if you need to.

[PinkySweet]

Good thing I always carry a knife in my purse

[JanieMarie]

So how did it go when he got home!? Did you end up doing any of the ideas that were mentioned? The next time he goes aways on a trip you should send some of your dominance along with him. By that I mean lock him up in a ******* male chastity device (which is pretty easy to find nowdays) and keep the keys. Tell him that if he gets too horny and sexuall frustrated then he'll just have to come back early so you can unlock him. True sensual dominance is all about tease & denial, dangling a carrot (i.e. your sexy self) just out of reach.