[orchiddreams]

I don't always climax but as long as it's enjoyable and there is a connection I am a happy clam.

My bf does regularly inquire if I enjoy our escapades and it never turns me off. Communication is very important for a satisfying sex life.

Personally, my body reacts differently with each session. Sometimes mild, sometimes with more vitality. It's not always the same and the only way to measure is with communication and honesty. My bf uses the approach that I can be open with him without judgement, there are times I know it ain't going to happen for me and I tell him I'm enjoying and that's all it takes. It's not an indication to him that something is wrong and he doesn't take it personally.

So, I wouldn't get hung up on it. Talk about it. It is the most intimate act on it's own communication shouldn't even be an issue.

goodluck

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Actually, not all women sweat after an orgasm. All women are different and each woman will have a different reaction. The vaginal barrel spasm can be very mild for some women and may not be noticable. Also, only a faction of women can squirt.

I'm not actually sure its sweat, its some kind of reaction to hightened sexual erousal.

Your question should not be did she have an orgasm, it should be did she enjoy. Majority of people enjoy an orgasm and it is the pinacle of sexual pleasure. But remember, such a concept lumps everybody into liking the same thing. Not every person thinks of orgasm as the best part of sex.

Sure any love making that is pleasurable is good. (Most of us live very physically and mentally demanding lives its no wonder we have difficulty achieving orgasm)

The only way to know is to ask. Nothing wrong with it. I ask my husband at each meal if it was good. Doesn't make me look like I have a complex. Shows that I care that he enjoys the food I cook.

I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to hurt you.

[DreamP346]

I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to hurt you.

I was not offended at all I just wanted to point out that women are so different, there is no one set of guidelines to define us.

[Stereohearts]

Question....The guy I'm seeing almost never wants to go for round 2 and he always passes out straight after. Why is this? it used to be we could go 5 times in one night (only happened once in the beginning, but we used to go 2-3 times all the time.) Even if he doesnt go to sleep right after its like we never do it more than once. Is it me? Cause it seems most guys have the crazy sex drive, but it seems like i'm the one who wants to more...

[Stereohearts]

So true...He always goes to sleep like right after, but i'm always like powered up. Feel like going to the gym or going again. And not to mention my head doesn't shut up afterward.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

I was not offended at all I just wanted to point out that women are so different, there is no one set of guidelines to define us.

Oh I meant to say that a women is damp then by the time she is on the threshold of orgasm shes drenched, not after.

[Hugo-B]

The best thing to do if you're not sure whether your GF has had an orgasm or not is to ASK her. Communication doesn't have to be complicated. Some women are MUCH trickier to make cum than others, some can make themselves cum easily (by just going on top for example) whilst others require much more work. Communicate with her, she'll appreciate you taking an honest and sincere interest in her pleasure, even it it naecessiates her giving you a couple of 'driving lessons' more than she will you just rolling off and with your fingers crossed and hoping for the best.

If you feel the muscles of her vagina spasm around your penis, see hot flush marks on her chest, make her hips shake like Elvis's, or feel her grip hold of you and whimper sincerely 'I'm cumming' then you know you're on the right tracks.