[Kay01]

I'm a 21 (22 in 4 days) year old female with absolutely no sex drive. I've been dating the same guy for a little over a year now. When we first started dating, we'd have sex almost every day. I'm still attracted to him and we've tried different things to get me in the mood for it, but it's just not there, period. I have no desire to have sex at all anymore. Before I was with him, I dated the same guy for 5 years and of course, the sex got old after awhile but I still had an extremely high sex drive. Now, it's like I don't have one at all. I can't even get to the point to get in the mood because it just all sounds like too much trouble. I just don't want to bother with the process of sex anymore. I know this frustrates my boyfriend. He loves me, but I know he wants it pretty much all the time so this is extremely frustrating for me. Any clue what is going on with me?

[jns]

There are several situations I would like to explore.

Does your bf work on making sure you get pleasure out of the sex? Sometimes the partner who gets nothing out of the sex gets turned off by it.

With the guy wanting it all the time and the girl knowing it, she comes to want it less because she knows it won't satiate Mr. Insatiable. He wants it even more and she even less until he is frustrated all of the time and she doesn't want sex at all. Of course, the roles could be reversed. Everyone wants to know what they are doing makes a difference and is not a drop of water in the ocean. Does this possibly fit?

[Hugo-B]

Birth control pill affecting you?

The big question, do you feel sexually attracted to other men?

[Mes T]

I would like to second jns's question - does your partner make you orgasm, etc? If not then it is little wonder you're not interested.

[AshB$]

I had the hardest time when my boyfriend couldn't make me orgasm...(It's not an easy task). It kind of made me feel bad about myself cuz he'd try so hard...then we found the trick, ORAL. Even though it still may take time, that's the one thing that'll be me orgasm. Have him try licking you. Have him squeeze your hips and kiss up and down the middle of your thighs. You'll love it.
Maybe don't rush into sex. Some people want to get it done and over with. FOREPLAY. That will make all the difference. Maybe you aren't turned on now, but when he starts kissing and teasing you, it may turn you on.
I think teasing is a big turn on. They make it seem like they are gonna give it to you and pull away. Me and my fiance tease a lot, and it does make me want it even more. Try it Good luck!