How can I make this a possibility? Cuz my fiance definitely doesn't deserve it! I, myself, am alway all over it so it's gonna be hard. Even when I'm upset I get want him... But this time it's different. It's a whole new level. I shouldn't let him have it for quite a long time, aiming for a week AT LEAST. How can I control myself? It's not that I am always horny, I just loved being intimate with him. It's gonna be hard for me. HELP? ADVICE? TIPS?
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You must tell him.“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
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I'm not speaking to him at the moment....Comment
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I, myself, have never viewed sex as a weapon. It's a special intimate act, even when you just want your hair pulled. You are with that person in a way that is beyond personal. That other people have no right to with you.
If you have no want for him to touch you right now, I understand that, emotions are high and you need to cool down and get your head on straight. But to use it as a punishment because he messed up, I strongly suggest you reconsider. He is not a child that you have grounded, he's suppose to be your equal, the love of your life, the person you want to wake up next to for decades to come.
Just reverse the situation, you mess up big time, you try to make things right, you are apologetic, you know that you have emotionally hurt the person you love; and yet they punish you as if you are eight years old.
This seems to be a situation that has occurred most recently, so just let him know that you need time to cool down and think, and do so. Go to a room and yell, get a punching bag out and wail, distract your mind in any way you need to. But after that, sit down with him like two loving adults and talk things out.Comment
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I agree with Element here. If you are angry with someone and don't want sex, thats OK, but if you are angry and are withholding sex as punishment, that is different. As soon as you start to think of sex as a reward, then it quickly becomes a trade, something you are bartering for his behavior, and that leads down a very unpleasant path.Comment
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I think you must.“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
― Mae WestComment
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