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  • emm92
    Member
    • May 2010
    • 19

    Feeling a bit lost... Opinion/advice?

    I'v been browsing on here for awhile, and you guys seem to give out some good advice.. So I am going to share my "problem".. I am not sure what I really want to get out of it, but anyway! (also sorry if this is in the wrong section!)

    I met this guy at a relative's wedding a few months back. He’s from my area, but recently moved up north due to work. We really hit it off and pretty much spent the next week together – before he had to leave, just hanging out and what have you. He did stay over at my place one night, but nothing happened, just a movie and cuddles, as I made it clear I didn’t want to be some ‘fling’, he agreed and seemed a bit put out that I would think of him to do something like that, as he said he really liked me. There defiantly is/was something there...

    Anyway he left, and we kept in close touch.. A lot of sexual tension built up.. He came down last weekend for personal reasons, flew in Friday, left Sunday morning. We caught up Friday night for drinks, then Saturday night, we had sex. It was good, and I mean good!... Then he left Sunday morning.

    I don’t regret what happened.. But I sort of feel like I have turned into that ‘fling’ I did not want to be.. I haven’t heard from him all week. I don’t know if I should text him and ask..what exactly? I don’t know if I’m making a fuss out of nothing! No one else knows about this, which is why I’m posting on here for some input!

    Thanks
  • caster
    Senior Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 174

    If by keeping in close touch you were texting then yes, just text him like you always did and ask the usual stuff like before. Don't bring up the sex unless he does, at least not on the first one.
    He may think you feel badly about him, may be busy, the sad thing is the longer he waits the worse he looks, but if each of you guys communication was honest then he'll be there just like before, if not, you were a conquest and he's a jerk.

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    • DreamP346
      • Oct 2011
      • 2053

      He may be posting the same comments on another forum saying he had sex with this girl and he doesn't know what to do next. Like Caster suggests, text him and continue the normal contact. Eventually, do talk about what you both want from this relationship.
      Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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      • emm92
        Member
        • May 2010
        • 19

        Thanks a lot guys, made me feel a bit better lol. He does work a lot, and I didnt want to text him and seem like a pest... Usually we text each other about, 2-3 times a week give or take. (Text cos its way cheaper!) We have kept in steady contact since April, therefore I dont consider him as one of those guys I'd just forget about...

        Will text him and see how it goes!

        Cheers

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