[Arko]

Being a male I'm especially interested in female opinions on the following topics, hence I'm posting this in a female dominated forum:

Do you people (both men and women) not derive pleasure while pleasuring your partner?
I ask this because often in online forums I read about people doing things only to 'satisfy' their partner, as if it's some selfless act in which only the one at the receiving end is satisfied. Think about oral sex. People talk about it like it's an act where only one can feel pleasure at a time. That's why they use terms like "giving an oral", or say things like "I like doing it because it makes my boyfriend happy". Now, I always felt that any sexual act is mutually pleasurable. For example, when I perform oral on my partner, I personally find it almost equally pleasurable to receiving an oral myself. And this feeling is not just because I like to see her getting turned on, it's way deeper than that. I'm aroused physically even though my sexual organs aren't directly stimulated.
If you're in a relation where you love each other or are not objectifying your partner merely as a pleasure machine, then every sexual act that you do should be almost equally pleasurable to both, even when only one's sensitive parts are being stimulated at a time. This applies right from foreplay to oral.

Secondly, a lot of people feel disgusted by female or male ejaculate. I've heard some women say that ejaculating on the face is something degrading.
Now, I believe that something is degrading only when you mean it to be degrading. I understand how in popular porn at times the man treats his woman in a degrading way while ejaculating, and how that can instill a stereotypical notion that ejaculating anywhere other that the vagina is always degrading in real life.
But this is definitely not true. There is nothing inherently repulsive about sperm or vaginal secretion (female ejaculate). They do not taste/feel bad and neither are they unhealthy. According to my partner and me, the result of an orgasm (cum) is inherently sexy and arousing. Why should something that results from pure pleasure be repulsive or degrading? Some say that they don't taste good. Well they aren't supposed to taste like fruit juice. They're 'sex juice', they're organic in nature.
But seriously, even if they tasted bad (which they do not), it still wouldn't have mattered while having sex, because the feeling that it is purely orgasmic and intimate in nature would have made me want to consume it (female ejaculate in my case) and want more. I'm not boasting about my sexual life, but me and my partner find it very sexy and intimate to get messy with cum and vaginal fluid.
Do others share this view?
And if you think that a man cumming on a woman's face is always degrading, do you also think that a woman ejaculating on the man's face while cunnilingus is degrading as well?

[AshB$]

Well I for one, love doing oral on my fiance. I think I might enjoy it more than he does. lol but sometimes I do think when he does oral on me, it is just to please me. lol.
But I think they feeling should be mutual. I love touching him. I love when I know he is getting pleasure. That is the best part for me.

I love consuming my fiance's cum. It doesn't taste great, but I can manage it. I like it overall.

And about the degrading thing...If they sex was just a fling or if the man was being dominate over the female, I think it could be degrading. If it's a mutual act of passion, that is perfectly fine. Still, some women don't like the idea of it, and that's their business. Nothing wrong with it either way.

[Amandolyn]

I also enjoy pleasuring my man orally... I mean dont get me wrong, there are times I'm not so into if I'm just not feeling it if you know what I mean. But I've never turned him down & I'm always enthusiastic I'm pretty sure he enjoys returning the favor. And about the degrading sex acts, I've always felt they cannot be seen as degrading if they are done in the privacy of you own bedroom (so to speak). How can someone judge what they are ignorant of? It's between you & your lover. It's when you are overly casual & careless with your sex life & perform these acts with multiple people when it becomes degrading. Of course if you're letting every guy in town blow a load in your face it's bound to be spoken of & then it's no longer private. I'll admit I've done some dirty things with my fiance which I will not disclose & would almost be embarrassed to disclose. Nor would I feel comfortable doing such things with just any guy. But I do not feel like I have ever degraded myself or that he has ever degraded me.

[Arko]

Thanks for your feedback. I'm glad you ladies share my views.
And I think if there's a variety of things to do sexually, it only makes the experience more fun and intimate. I'd love my partner to get crazy and come up with "dirty" ideas.

[notlikethenormal]

I enjoy giving my boyfriend oral, but then I enjoy anything that brings him pleasure. Be it sex, a small surprise gift to show him how much he's on my mind all day, cooking a meal, even something as small as making his coffee every morning.

I think the cases that we see on this forum of people expressing how they have a hatred of a particular sexual act comes from years of conditioning. Sometimes from their parents or their religion, or possibly abuse.

[Magnetism]

Yes, my body is conditioned to respond when I give pleasure. I feel a lot of pleasure and get turned on at the other person being excited. I've been this way as long as I can remember.

I overheard some males thinking that a woman only gives oral to please her man and not get off herself, but I disagreed. I have known women that do get aroused by giving oral. It's the same as a man enjoying licking and ravishing a woman's body. Perhaps those men didn't encounter a woman that really enjoyed giving oral.

[shoshannah]

As to your first question, I don't mind giving my boyfriend oral, and in an emotional sense it makes me happy that he is happy and is a turn-on at that level. But in terms of physical or psychological stimulation, it just really doesn't do anything for me. I'm not attracted to his penis in the same way that he's attracted to, say, my boobs. When I see that it's erect I like it because that means he finds me attractive and he wants me and we are going to make love, and I do love how his penis feels when it's inside me, but my interest in it in a purely sexual way doesn't extend to putting it in my mouth. I'm not opposed to it, but it doesn't do anything for me. But his reactions as I give him oral _are_ a turn-on.

Regarding semen, I don't think it gross. I don't like the taste and consistency of it, but I think that's different from calling it gross. frankly, my boyfriend's favorite place to ejaculate is in my vagina, and that's my favorite place too. It's messy afterwards, but the drippyness reminds me of our lovemaking and our closeness and makes me happy. Other than pearl necklaces, he's never ejaculated on my face--even with the pearl necklaces that wasn't really the intention. If he wanted to do so, i would probably think it a little weird, but i don't suppose that would automatically make it degrading. Isn't ejaculating on a woman a way that the porn movies show that a man is having an orgasm, since you can't see it if he stays in side her? I just wonder if a lot of this isn't just life imitating art. As I said, both my boyfriend and i usually prefer his ejaculation to happen while he's inside my vagina.