[Winged_Muse]

So I'm having some serious issues. I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't want any sort of sex nor do I really want to do anything in return. My fiance is really sex crazed as if he's addicted to it. He's always asking for Blowjobs, and a lot of the time I just do it so he gets off my back. There are weeks I don't want to do anything at all and it only seems to get worse as the days go by. I work a lot, about 33 hours a week if not a little bit more. He works to so we only get to see each other select days and for a few hours here and there. I'm not sure if I'm just tired or what. I just came off being on a 4 day mini vacation and of course, the one weekend we could really get into it I was on my period and well, that just wouldn't have been fun. I've been stressed, plenty of things on my mind. I'm not sure if that could be leading to it? Tomorrow he and I are both off work and well, I know he's expecting it. There is nothing wrong with him, I just know it's all with me. Could I just be tired of him always wanting it and me obliging just to make him happy? I'm so frustrated, depressed even and I have no idea what my problem is..

[jns]

Your fiance may or may not be sex crazed. How often did he want it before when your sex life was more normal. Most likely, the more you cut him off, the more he wanted it. The more he wanted it, the more you cut him off. A viscous circle. What started this circle?

What else is going on taking up your time and energy. 33 hours a week is not too much. Many people average 50 or 60.

It sounds like your libidos are mismatched. I hope your wedding isn't soon. This situation should be resolved before marriage.

[Winged_Muse]

It’s been off and on since I was on my birth control pills. I got on birth control back in I believe 09, then I quit taking them last year at the end of October because they were making me sick. They had me on a roller coaster ride with my Libido, some days I wanted it really bad, other days I didn’t even want to be touched (still somewhat the same with that). He’s wanted sex just as much as before as he does now. He hasn’t changed at all with that, I know it’s all on me.

I’m so tired from work after I get home I just don’t want to do anything but cuddle with him even though he always seems to push some sort of sex act on me IE: Finger, blowjob, etc. Even days I’m off I don’t want it, I don’t feel like having sex, or doing any sort of sexual act at all. We have no plans for our wedding anytime soon since we both work in Retail and sadly enough, don’t have the money to really do anything pertaining to a wedding at all. I’m just so lost. Today we’re both off work and I know he’ll be expecting it but I just don’t want it.

[Chelsen]

I think it is perfectly normal for all women to go through a sexual rough patch. I am 24 and when my bf and I were together the first couple years of our relationship, we were having sex everyday. But then, my sex drive slowed down very drastically and I barely ever wanted to have sex. Now we have been together 5 1/2 years and ever since I got off birth control pills, it's gone way back up again. It could be a phase or the bc you are on. I finally just said **** it one day and stopped taking pills and using condoms. I feel so much better mentally and feel happier and my sex drive is back on track. I would try this out and see how you like it. If your fiance doesn't like condoms then he's just gotta deal cause you need to be happy too. My bf HATED condoms but he actually doesn't mind them anymore. You'd be surprised how much bc pills can really effect you. ALSO, yes, I know, 50 Shades of Grey is cheesey but it totally turns me on which helps our sex life as well and frankly it's made me a little bolder in the bedroom ;-). Read it and see if it helps!

[Winged_Muse]

He and I have been together about 6 ½ years now actually. It used to be where we’d have sex almost every day minus that one little week during the month. Like I said, I got on BC back in like December of 2008 and then stopped using it last October of 2011. I haven’t been on another form since besides the use of condoms just because whatever birth control they put me on makes me sicker than a dog. I just turned 22 back on the first of july. My mom just bought the series you talk about, of course she lent the first book to her boss so I have to wait to read it. Nothing seems to work though. I do watch porn from time to time and honestly, I haven’t even had the want to do that in hopes of helping me. I’m just stuck right now I think.

[Winged_Muse]

This is just getting more frustrating. It's all he wants. He compliments me and everything all the time but it's like I'm not turned on by him anymore or something. I don't want anything to do with it though I still want him. I don't know what to do and it's tearing me apart..