[LittlePip]

Lately my BF has been reading and writing about sex a lot. I do this too, I think it contributes to my high sex drive. His sex drive seems to have plummeted lately, maybe just from tiredness, whilst I can understand this I am left feeling frustrated.

When we have had sex he's been too tired or busy to get 'creative' and I miss our sex! He makes time to see his friends, I'm sure he wouldn't go to a bar and just flop over the bar and snooze!

I feel too guilty to stamp my feet and demand more (sexual) attention because I appreciate the things he does for me, he does make time to spend with me etc and he tries so hard in all other aspects of our relationship. I just want to shout DON'T JUST TALK THE TALK, WALK THE (HORIZONTAL!) WALK!

Thanks for letting me vent, it'll save his ears and I'm sure we'll be back on track soon (I hope)!

[Hugo-B]

What does he write? does he have a blog or something?

[LittlePip]

No he doesn't, he writes for his own pleasure. I've suggested blogging but there are so many similar blogs out there and his writing is very personal so he won't do it.

[AshB$]

My fiance has been stressed out lately and a little more lazy too. Like when he has sex with me, I know he enjoys it, but it almost seems that I have to talk him into it.
Like in the car I was trying to get him to do it. We always used to put the seats down in back and go for it! But now he says the same thing about everything "It's too much effort."
So little me has to crawl over on top of him in the driver's seat.

[LittlePip]

That's exactly what I'm talking about Ash! The attitude has changed from wanting to ravish me to almost coercion! I don't mind working hard, I don't even mind less foreplay as much as I mind the feeling that he's just not interested and doing it for my benefit. If he's not interested it's not worth it!

At least for us, Ash, stress and tiredness are very manageable and reversible!