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Is it weird that i get turned on by my bf's ex-sextape?
So recently me and my boyfriend were talking about making a sextape, and the question "did you ever make a sextape before" popped up. Both of us have. For some reason though i really wanted to see his? Maybe it was the curiosity of whether or not i was better than her. Or how he handled her vs me. Anyways I saw it and oddlly enough i got really turned on. It was kind of like his ex was a sexdoll and i imagined me as her and him doing me. I got a little jealous, which made me want him more. Like it was a challenge to me. I asked him if he wanted to see mine and he didnt want to, even the thought of someone effng me got him sick and a little mad. So I'm a little confused. Is it weird that i like his sextape? i know its definately not normal for women to find a sextape of thier bf's/husband's having intercourse with their ex's pleasing, especially if they kept it. (the tape was traced somewhere in his exs old email, he claims he never watches it). Let me know! -
Interesting Question.
Though, personally it would kinda be like watching an Ex's Wedding. With all the Happy Family around. And Knowing all of that Happiness somehow faded and they Left each other and I'm now Stuck with or Chose to have her/his Leftovers ?
Could I Compare, Would I want to do " Better or Outshine " the Past Wedding, the Past Bride ?
The Past Relationship ?
I think Not, I do NOT Need to Replace or " Compete " with any EX Relationship.. Mine or His.
I want to enjoy, explore, evolve with my Love of My Life on my Own. Make my own memories, make my own " photographic " moments.
And as far as "Sex Tapes ". of myself or any other Member of My Family. Just know .. that some day, someone, some how . Will see them.
And make sure.. it's a good one. Make it Visual, Make sure that if your Kids or Parents or Grandparents ever saw it go Viral. That they know " How to have Sex in Competition with you ". Bj's, S&M , Anal, It's all good..
As long as we can Compare and learn from the " EX " or watch a movie of oneself having Sex.
Yeah I like that Idea.
It is after all a " Learning Experience". And I believe that Porn Stars get Paid and Sex Tapes get Viral when relationships Break up .
Then again, watching Mom & Dad, or Step Dad & Step Mom. Going at it and hopefully the first Parent " got the Breeding Techniques ' Correct. Might be worth learning and not so Cool Watching ?
Shivers me Timbers, Just thinking My Grandparents had " Sex " to start with. But knowing they had Love and Made Love" is Awesome. I would not be 47 years old without them having had Sex and created my Parent.
But ewwwwww , I'm glad they didn't have Tapes or Camera's. that recorded it " ALL ' like we do now . Lol. If Gram gave Gramps a BJ, none of My Business or Interest .
Though , their Love for each other shined for over 35 years.
Now that is a " Love " I would be Interested in and a Competition that I would be willing to be in. To make one Marriage or Commitment..
Last over the 35 years., To see the " Old Photo's of Love as it Bloomed, To have them Capture the Birth and Growth of their Children and Grand Kids, in Pictures. In Kodak Moments, in Moving Pictures Camera's, in Slides and just old fashioned Polaroids.
This is what you can do for your Relationship. If you want a Future with this Man. Make your own Memories. Or you can Watch the old ones. And Yes, Compare yourself and Watch him or You .. Make other " Memories " of ???
*Fill in Blank *and Remember your Kids may see this someday.
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Research that I've seen (casually, I think on TV) showed that women were turned on by all types of sex, whatever their sexuality. Meaning women were turned on (I think they monitored brain and heart activity) by videos of straight sex, gay sex, I think male and female gay sex, and animal's having sex! Strange but true. So even through the women would not identify as enjoying watching gay, or animal sex their physical response was present! So it may, at least partially, be the same response you are having here. Although obviously you are aware and accepting of that response.So recently me and my boyfriend were talking about making a sextape, and the question "did you ever make a sextape before" popped up. Both of us have. For some reason though i really wanted to see his? Maybe it was the curiosity of whether or not i was better than her. Or how he handled her vs me. Anyways I saw it and oddlly enough i got really turned on. It was kind of like his ex was a sexdoll and i imagined me as her and him doing me. I got a little jealous, which made me want him more. Like it was a challenge to me. I asked him if he wanted to see mine and he didnt want to, even the thought of someone effng me got him sick and a little mad. So I'm a little confused. Is it weird that i like his sextape? i know its definately not normal for women to find a sextape of thier bf's/husband's having intercourse with their ex's pleasing, especially if they kept it. (the tape was traced somewhere in his exs old email, he claims he never watches it). Let me know!
Interestingly men were not turned on by all types of sexual imagery, I believe most only showed activity during the films relevant to their sexuality plus the obvious (such as men who identified themselves as 'straight' were turned on by lesbian films!).Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around.Comment
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