[shoshannah]

I love having orgasms during intercourse. They not only feel good physically but they are so emotionally bonding between my boyfriend and me. I can have more than one during intercourse--except for one problem. When I do reach orgasm during intercourse, I get very expressive and emotional, and it drives my boyfriend so wild he has a lot of trouble holding back. He says it's both physical and emotional stimulation. Happened again this morning. So I don't often get to have a second one. I can have them during foreplay, but I want to have more during actual intercourse

He's not being selfish about it--he's a wonderfully considerate lover. it's just that my orgasm is too much for him.

Are there any secrets to helping him hold back long enough for me to regularly have a second (or a third even)?

[Quest]

Males can at most have one orgasm during sex, why do you feel the need to get more?

[jns]

He would have to do a lot of starting intercourse and then stopping to resume slightly later - to lengthen the period to orgasm. Unfortunately fine tuning is usually not easy nor is it recommended in such a case, IMO. For him to hold back he would have to be less in tune with your first orgasm, not truly an ideal situation. What if he became desensitized entirely or indifferent? You would have your orgasms or not, but maybe he would not have orgasms or maybe he would get erectile dysfunction. Maybe a better way would be to have him give you one or more after play orgasms manually or orally. Or if he could, continue after a rest period.

[shoshannah]

To Quest . . . Umm, idk maybe because I'm not a male?

[rosekitten]

Males can at most have one orgasm during sex, why do you feel the need to get more?

I didn't realize that "pleasure" was something that had to be O for O. "You got one, and I got one" isn't really a loving relationship, it's a scorecard.

To the OP, making him actually stop before he reaches orgasm will help. **** rings (can) help, but they haven't seemed to slow my husband down any, they just make them stronger. <_<

[Hugo-B]

Seeing a woman orgasm - uninhibitedly - something I suspect the OP is doing can be a HUGE turn on and was more than enough to bring me to orgasm when I was younger. The 'simultaneous' orgasm is actually a very good objective to work towards, I haven't managed it with my current GF yet, and when It happened with ex's it was always under the circumstances the OP described.

I wouldn't say she's being selfish, one could argue somewhat demanding, yes, I think that would be tenable; but we're not here to discuss that. Men generally pride themselves on being able to satisfy their lovers (and beat themselves up when they can't) and I'll bet the OP's partner is no exception.

Tell him to do start doing the PC muscle exercises: religiously, they are described in great detail in the barefoot doctor's handbook for modern lovers. PC muscle exercises are simple, just tense the same muscle you would use to stop yourself urinating. Another tantric trick is to tell him to push his tongue into the roof of his mouth and breath in slowly though his nose and then out, slowly through his mouth. He'll make a REALLY stupid face when he does this: make sure you don't laugh!

Hypothetically, if you didn't orgasm I'm guessing he would be able to carry on, correct? In that case strengthening the PC muscle so he can manage to 'ride the storm' should buy him enough time to allow you to enjoy your first orgasm. Once you've cum, and assuming he has managed not to, make him withdraw so he's only got his tip in you and make him take 10-20 slow, deep breaths before he starts again. That should let him calm down and regain composure without having to pull right out of you.

Good luck x

[redthunder2001]

Males can at most have one orgasm during sex, why do you feel the need to get more?

Excuse my bluntness, but you're wrong and that stupid.

Better question: why wouldnt you ant your woman to have as many orgasms as possible? from a mans perspective, thats one of the the most intensely fulfilling things you can do for your woman, bring her to ultimate pleasure. I dont think her question reads like she feel ENTITLED to more orgasms, she simply wants more. If there was a way i could have multiple repeated orgasms, SIGN ME UP!