[suej]

My husband actually comes faster just after fisting me, when I am looser. I am sure some of it is because of his excitement level, since he loves fisting me so much. But he also has clearly stated the looseness and wetness and lack of friction feels better! To each there own, right?

[bootsie]

The more posts I read the more I have come to realize that I am far from alone when it comes to my sexual preferences and motivation. I have been married for 17 years now. At 35 with 3 kids I can honestly say that my sex life is more alive now and more satisfying than it has ever been. Shortly after our first child was born my husband made the comment that he was really turned on with how "loose" my vagina felt. At first I thought that he was just saying that, I mean we have all heard the whole "tighter is better" debate over the years. I just kinda brushed it off as him just saying whatever he needed to just to because he was finally back in the saddle again after the 8-10 week lay-off from when our son was born. Then he began discussing it again in greater length and I was very stand offish about the subject. Eventually after many conversations regarding the subject we decided to play around with it a little bit. Stretching my vagina out a couple of fingers at a time then shortly there after using some larger toys. Well, the experience was very delightful and I really enjoyed the full and filling sensation. He was more excited that ever and would, on most occasions be capable of going at it for more that 2 hours at a time and having multiple orgasms.....as well as myself. My girlfriends, however, when we would all get together and talk I always felt really insecure about the choices and decisions I had made and would never really share with them even through their recounts of their sexual experiences and exploration. Fast forward over 10 years later and the more I read and the more I research the more I have realized that, though this may not be as common of a practice, or as accepted by others, but that I am not alone. We have done many many things in the bedroom. Purchased numerous very large sized toys and practice fisting regularly. Yes the capacity and shape and size has changed over the years. His size obviously has stayed the same. I still get just as much satisfaction with traditional sex. the foreplay is amazing and the thrill of his excitement really satisfying as well. In short, I love the feeling of being stretched and out relationship has done nothing but become stronger as a result. follow your heart and be happy with yourself. Love yourself and dont worry about what others think.

fancyfree,...I'm sorry,But I have to ask this which you have brought up something that I REALLY have been trying to find out about.You mentioned that you and your husband has been practicing fisting.You mean that he has been putting his fist in you? How??Wouldn't that hurt?

[jilljames8184]

I am not into fisting or extreme toys; but I love the feeling I get from a thick, fat penis. It does have to be long. I like a short thick penis better than a long thin penis.

[Romy]

The thought of a man sticking his fist up me is repulsive and a total turn off. I just don't get why anyone would want to do it. If Jen was around, she would finally see with this comment that I'm not the freak she thought I was because I draw the line at fisting.

I'd love to know the man's thought process behind wanting to do it.

To each their own I guess

[effy2014]

If Jen was around, she would finally see with this comment that I'm not the freak she thought I was because I draw the line at fisting.

"Freaks" don't have to enjoy every kinky activity. Each person's body reacts differently to different stimuli. Our minds also accept or reject things based upon preconceived notions that may or may not be accurate. I've never tried fisting . . . seems more of a porn activity to me . . . But the feeling of being stretched may put some women over the edge. Not sure I would be eager to try it, but I've also never been asked.

So, do,you have the inside scoop why Jen left us?

[bootsie]

The thought of a man sticking his fist up me is repulsive and a total turn off. I just don't get why anyone would want to do it. If Jen was around, she would finally see with this comment that I'm not the freak she thought I was because I draw the line at fisting.

I'd love to know the man's thought process behind wanting to do it.

To each their own I guess

Romy,
I'm a guy and I'm along with you on that note and I can also speak the same for my SO.I can't see what someone especially a woman would get out of it except pain.All I can think and say is that I guess there are some people out there that are into pain and pleasure at the same time.The reason that I have been wanting to find out if women really let and have someone do that to them,was because I have been hearing some talk about couples doing that.It got to hurt,not matter how much lube you uses.

[bootsie]

"Freaks" don't have to enjoy every kinky activity. Each person's body reacts differently to different stimuli. Our minds also accept or reject things based upon preconceived notions that may or may not be accurate. I've never tried fisting . . . seems more of a porn activity to me . . . But the feeling of being stretched may put some women over the edge. Not sure I would be eager to try it, but I've also never been asked.

So, do,you have the inside scoop why Jen left us?

effy, Jen left the forum?

[effy2014]

effy, Jen left the forum?

Sad to say, it appears that way. Last post was in mid-August. Perhaps she will reappear someday.

[raindancer]

It'll never be easy for a person without certain kinks to understand other people's fetishes. Why do they like it? They just do.

I'm not into fisting. Never tried it. But someone tells me he/she is into it, well, good for them. I won't "get it", because it isn't my thing. It's just a matter of respecting their choices, even though I won't be participating in their fetishism.

What I do feel when people tell me such a thing, something I do find so different from my world, is happiness they've trusted me enough to share their thing with me.

Having said that, I like to be tight. I don't want to be loose. I like to feel a "strong" presence of a penis in me. If I were to be "loose", I would miss that sensation a lot.

But what is good for me isn't good for everybody. To each her own, and may we all be happy.

[Motorguy]

The thought of a man sticking his fist up me is repulsive and a total turn off. I just don't get why anyone would want to do it. If Jen was around, she would finally see with this comment that I'm not the freak she thought I was because I draw the line at fisting.

I'd love to know the man's thought process behind wanting to do it.

To each their own I guess

Well your right Romy, my Donna would completely agree with you on this practice. She can be a little kinky but fisting is way over the top for her as well. Plus it's something I wouldn't want to do as it's never ever cross my mind to even asked her to try. But like you say to each their own on this practice.