[Angel Almira]

for the first time we had sex, he couldnt get into me. we used condoms. later,at a stage, we got it without condoms. but i had doubt whether he inserted correctly. i got lot pain but didnt get any feel. we tried again in alternate days. he is getting that peasure feel but not me. whenever we do, am getting nothing but pain. but day by day am getting little pain only. wat is the reason? how do i know that am getting inserted correctly?? What if inserted wrongly in urinary hole?

[DSemcho]

Well it doesn't go into your urinary hole.... It goes into the same hole that tampons go into.... It's below your clit and you can't miss it.

[Hugo-B]

You need to direct him, as in gently grip the base of his penis with your thumb and finger and guide him into you, as Semcho says along the same route as a tampon. It sounds like he's inexperienced so wont know 'where to go either'.

Buy a tube of water based lube and wipe it onto yourself similar to the way your BF would touch you if he was stimulating you with his fingers. Before your BF enters you rub lube all over the condom. This will reduce friction and help things 'slide into place' more easily. If you want him to enter you at a certain pace - at least not to quickly depending on his size, hold his hips whilst he's on top of you so he can't enter you too fast which he'll likely feel inclined to do, although the lube will help a lot.

BB

[DreamP346]

It is not possible to go into the urinary hole, so don't worry about that.

First thing is you have to touch yourself and become very familiar with your own body. Make sure you can insert at least one finger. Just above the opening of your vagina is the clitoris. This is usually the most sensitive part for women. You can explore by yourself or with you boyfriend. He also needs to become familiar with your anatomy.

Are you guys doing lots of foreplay? Kissing, touching each other all over including the genitals. Have him rub your clitoris to get you excited. See if you can have an orgasm that way. Have you ever had an orgasm? If not, then you need to masturbate on your own and learn to. At least 20 minutes of foreplay is a must. Once you are wet and excited, when guide him in like buddhaboy mentioned. You may not feel much pleasure in this because the clitoris is more sensitive than the inside of the vagina. Keep stimulating the clit even when he is inside of you.

Always use protection/condom. You don't want to get pregnant for get an infection.