[Lovcookie]

My sweet GF slowly has admitted she is more bi-sexual then she originally let me know. A few months ago she admitted she had sexual relations with a few women but much prefers men. At that time a GF of hers was visiting and unexpectedly we had a threesome. Still at that time she said she is 80/20 biased towards men and could never have a long term sexual relationship with a women. It was more of a momentary trill. Now she is going on a short vacation to visit this same friend. I was asked to come but work is too busy at the moment and can not afford the time off. I jokingly asked if she thinks she will have sex with her. She said probably not but if you come maybe we will have another threesome. I was shocked, disappointed and excited with her comment all at the same time. Something tells me she will get it on with her. I am wondering why I am not that upset if she does. I should be right? I decided to ask her when she gets back if they did.

[TJPatriot]

Getting upset or not is up to you. There are plenty examples of polyamorous (I think that's the term) relationships and the like. And biologically you're less threatened by a member of another gender since they cannot impregnate her like you, so in a way, you're still special and superior to the "rival".

Best case scenario, either she'll do nothing with that girl or they'll get on with it, but she was sincere about keeping you involved, so you may eventually be in a man's "dream world" where you get two women at all times.

Worst case scenario, she leaves you for the woman, either just because or because you become possessive and try to keep them apart.

And the signs based on this post point closer to a best case scenario for you.

[JonDoe]

Life is too short to pass up an opportunity like this. Find a way to get the time off, you'll regret it later if you don't.

[Element]

Actually being upset from a woman on woman rendezvous while being in a serious relationship comes down to you, your beliefs and how you feel about your relationship and your woman.

Most men, not all men, but most just view a woman on woman encounter as being risque, sexy, and they're fine with it.
Then there are the other types of men who view it as their woman is with another person, without their knowledge before hand, or without their approval that it is okay that you lie in bed with another; it's cheating.

My own boyfriend has standards and rules for this sort of thing. As he knows me and knows I have some bi-tendencies, I am not bi. So if I were to ever choose to experiment with a woman concerning sex, he'd be fine with it as long as he knows who it is before hand and he'd want to know why I am choosing to experiment. Yes, we have had this discussion.

Since it is a friend of your girlfriend, you know that she knows this woman, she is comfortable with this woman. I do not know how close you two are and if your love is strong enough that you know she just simply can not be taken from you, no doubt there, period. Why she would want to sleep with someone outside of your relationship and without you, I can not answer. These are questions you need to ask yourself and review your relationship with her.

Something you might want to consider is, that before you two have a threesome, discuss the rules and boundaries. Whom you can finish in, that it only happens right there and as soon as the night is over, there is no kissing, fondling, having intercourse with anyone else. If another threesome is wanted by either of you two, you discuss it yet again. Having boundaries and that "this is only for tonight" discussions could help your relationship.

[Lovcookie]

I asked her on the phone today if her friend had come on to her. Said more than once. Then I asked if they had sex she paused and said perhaps. In my mind that meant yes. So I ask how was it. She added that they both wished I was there. I nearly fell off my chair. Apparently just the one time. She returns tomorrow.

[DSemcho]

My input on this is do not make the mistake of bugging her about a threesome happening again. My ex husband did that and it completely made me not want to do it. My current husband actually wouldn't care if I had a girlfriend - and doesn't care if he gets a threesome. He'd be happy if he did, but he can also live without it and that's really what I love most about him. No pressure. If it happens then it happens.

[JonDoe]

In an ideal world sex would be more like a game of golf. Solo, with your favorite partner or occasionally with a new partner or multiple partners. Unfortunately, most people can become jealous and fearful of losing their partner to someone else. A lot of guys fantasize about watching their partner with another woman and of course joining in on the action too. However, not many men are open to their partner having sex with another man or woman in private. For me personally, I would consider it cheating if my wife had sex with anyone other than me or herself while we are married, unless we were together in the same room.

[Lovcookie]

She got back today and all seems cool. I asked the best way I could about how her trip went. I did not want her to feel guilty and she openly told me what happened. She added again that it was better with the three of us. Maybe that is why I don't seem angry. We started to joke around a bit about it. Actually, I found I could not help wonder if we wound have another threesome the next time this other woman visits. I don't want to get hook on it the idea and I did not bring that up. I figure she had her fun and lets go on from here.

One thing I noticed today when we were out in the sun is that she must have not shaved her legs for the entire week, if not more. She has gone weeks before not shaving her legs but usually not in the summer. She can get away with it because she is Asian and does not have much leg hair but the other woman is not big on shaving her legs either and it shows. Is that common for a lesbian or bi-sexual female not to shave her legs?

[jns]

Its common for Southeast Asian women who are from there to not shave their legs. My Thai wife has never shaved hers.

[Lovcookie]

Personally I don't mind her little fine legs hairs. It adds a natural aspect that I kind of like. If she enjoys my hairy legs (so she says) why would I care about the little she has. She said her friend asked her not to shave and won't until I ask her too. I am going to see how long they can get lol.