[JustHoldThisHand]

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Me and my girlfriend have phone sex because we can't be together physically at the moment, but she has a problem with being able to reach her G-Spot. I know this sounds like a strange problem, but it's affecting her quite a bit because she gets frustrated and feels helpless when she can't cum by herself.

She can't really achieve orgasm via clit stimulation, and to be able to reach her g-spot she has to twist and stretch her body in uncomfortable ways, and even then she can hardly touch it. When I'm on the phone to her I can usually dirty talk and give her enough will power to eventually get through to the other side, but by herself she always looses motivation before she cums because she's just too tired/uncomfortable/in pain from all the straining.

I was hoping that maybe... someone out there has had this problem before (or a similar issue) and might have a solution, but so far no luck :/

Has anyone ever heard of this problem? Does anyone have an idea?

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Details:
(just to clarify a few things and rule out any other problems)
Her fingers are long, it's just her arms that aren't quite long enough.
She's very sexually sensitive and responsive to touch, so that isn't the problem.
She's always very wet at the time, so lubrication isn't an issue.
She IS a virgin, and she's extremely tight. Three fingers is our record, but usually even two is a stretch.
I believe her hymen is still in-tact but I can't be sure.
We're both 18 and physically mature.

We'd both really appreciate any advice anyone has to offer. :3

[ItsASecret]

I was hoping that maybe... someone out there has had this problem before (or a similar issue) and might have a solution, but so far no luck :/

Has anyone ever heard of this problem? Does anyone have an idea?

Does she say she get that "I have to pee" feeling? If so then she is hitting the G-spot. Sometimes it can take some maneuvering to find the spot and sometimes a woman finds it but does not know that she has, that peeing sensation is typically the G-spot being stimulated though. As long as her finger is inside and curved up just a slight bit toward her belly button and does the "come hither" motion she will be hitting her G-spot even if there is no immediate feeling. It just takes some practice. But in some cases a woman is simply not as responsive to stimulating the G-spot as others so she may be finding and rubbing it just fine but her body in particular compared to other girls may not respond in that "oh wow I am going to orgasm" way. Just a thought.

Has she tried different positions like on her knees in the doggie style position? For some women that helps to find it, also on her back with knees bent but in a relaxed position can also help so that no muscles are being strained getting into some awkward position lol. Does your gf have any toys that she can use, or would be willing to buy? Many toys will be a simple vibrator with a slight curve to it which is designed to better reach the G-spot, there is no need for one of those fancy ones with 16 functions and 4 types of nubs and knobs lol...just a simple slender vibrator can do the job.

[DreamP346]

Trying to get to your own g-spot can be uncomfortable. A G-spot vibrator will do the job.

[JustHoldThisHand]

Again, the problem definitely isn't finding the G-Spot, it's just reaching it. When I'm with her I can easily stimulate it and she's incredibly responsive to it, same goes for when she manages to reach it herself. She does try different positions, but nothing has worked that well so far, but I'll get her to try them again and focus on keeping her relaxed.

A toy that allows her to stimulate her g-spot without straining would be ideal, but finding something slender enough would be difficult. Most of the time even two fingers is too much for her.

Thanks for the advice!

[ItsASecret]

There are plenty of vibrators in stores to look at, I have one that is less than 2 fingers wide. Even checking out the big name sex shops online just to see images (sometimes they will list how wide they are) of different vibrators can help get a general sense of things if she is wanting to explore that idea. Going nice and slow along with doing kegal exercises while using a vibrator, the slender ones, can also help her ease into relaxing the vaginal muscles more so that she does not feel so tight. But see if she would be up for visiting a sex shop to just look at some of the toys to see if there is anything that she would be willing to try out.