[sarah18]

Hey, here to get a little well needed advice.

Have had this problem for a couple of years now, where I am no longer able to orgasm during intercourse or forplay. I used to have orgasms without fail and it was a very normal and enjoyable exprience for me, but now I am unable to or if it does eventually happen it unsastisfactory and only comes from my partner giving me hand for about half an hour..
I have tried letting go and "relaxing", not thinking of trying to make it happen etc.
I have also tried focusing on trying to make it happen, going into fantacys even showing my partner how to pleasure me.
Nothing seems to be working, I dont have self esteem issues, I am in a very happy relationship and have a good sex drive - I just cant seem to orgasm anymore.

Any advice?

[jns]

Were you able to orgasm before being in a relationship. Maybe this is related to the Coolidge effect. Another possibility is that your testosterone levels are too low. have they been checked? Have you had any medical evaluation about this?

[DreamP346]

Has anything happened these past few years? New stressful job? New partner? Medical illness?

[sarah18]

In previous relationships I have been able to orgasm, which is strnage as this is the happiest one I have been in and its where the problem is persisting. I havent had my testosterone cheecked before no, but this could be a possiblity. Thanks

Also, have had amany changes in my life to do with work, study and moving but these were all previous to when I began having this problem.