Can't get turned on?

ElectricFeel

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Join Date: Jun 2012

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Can't get turned on?

09-04-2012, 10:16 PM

As much as I feel "frustrated" and have been exploring with masturbation, I can't help but feel I don't actually get turned on. I try watching porn, reading erotic stories, etc, but nothing helps! I'm almost worried it might be a problem. I feel in the mood but nothing seems to keep me interested, despite me wanting to be interested. What can I do?

I'm having the most trouble with using my fingers with masturbation. That doesn't seem to turn me on at all, and sometimes I don't always have my vibrator handy, which leaves me frustrated. But even with this, I still can't get turned on.

UGH, what can I do?
DreamP346

Join Date: Oct 2011

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09-05-2012, 06:55 AM

When you say you can't get turned on, are you saying you don't desire sex or that you can't get physicially aroused, because those are 2 different things. When you use the vibrator, do you orgasm? Is it that you don't get pleasure from sex?

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jns

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09-05-2012, 07:56 PM

You have to examine what gets you turned on as individual things and as combinations. Be introspective about yourself in your journey of exploration.

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