[margie123]

A update, when he did ask if we should get a movie the next time(I was already giving him foreplay)(he had always said he got them because it got me in the mood more) I said I did not want to watch that while we are making love, he asked why & said I don't want to watch you watching other peoples crotch, boobs ect... while we are having intercorse. He then got very mad & said I was calling him a pervert, I said no I don't mind watching them to get arrosed, but not while I giving you a BJ or intercorse. That was about 3 weeks ago. He has not asked to watch again. But now he expects me to do everything, get it started, & if I don't he gets very mad & says were getting a divorce unless I get started on him. The other night, he works long hours & usually he will said my back hurts or he has a headache, so I don't even try, because I have been turned down so many times. Well the other night he got mad because nothing had happened for about a week, so I said I did not think you were in the mood, so I gave him a BJ, he never even touched me thru the whole thing, hands over his head the whole time( he knows this bothers me I had brought it up to him once before) when done he rolled over & that was it. The next night I thought well I would like something. So I tried & said it's been a week I need a release, he said well I'm waiting I said you just had a bJ last night, he said those don't count. I'm at my wits end, I do think a divorce is in our future, I relize, I started this long ago, so I'm trying to keep that in mind, but I'm sick of being treated like crap. I deserve to be loved.

[DreamP346]

A update, when he did ask if we should get a movie the next time(I was already giving him foreplay)(he had always said he got them because it got me in the mood more) I said I did not want to watch that while we are making love, he asked why & said I don't want to watch you watching other peoples crotch, boobs ect... while we are having intercorse. He then got very mad & said I was calling him a pervert, I said no I don't mind watching them to get arrosed, but not while I giving you a BJ or intercorse. That was about 3 weeks ago. He has not asked to watch again. But now he expects me to do everything, get it started, & if I don't he gets very mad & says were getting a divorce unless I get started on him. The other night, he works long hours & usually he will said my back hurts or he has a headache, so I don't even try, because I have been turned down so many times. Well the other night he got mad because nothing had happened for about a week, so I said I did not think you were in the mood, so I gave him a BJ, he never even touched me thru the whole thing, hands over his head the whole time( he knows this bothers me I had brought it up to him once before) when done he rolled over & that was it. The next night I thought well I would like something. So I tried & said it's been a week I need a release, he said well I'm waiting I said you just had a bJ last night, he said those don't count. I'm at my wits end, I do think a divorce is in our future, I relize, I started this long ago, so I'm trying to keep that in mind, but I'm sick of being treated like crap. I deserve to be loved.

What makes you stay with him? What things about your relationship/marriage brings you joy and satisfaction? Does your husband treat you like this at other times besides sex?

[rcoreyus]

This is so frustrating. I've seen so many threads here where one person is willing to to absolutely anything for their partners, and yet gets nothing in return. Seems evenly split between men and women. If only the giving ,caring male lovers could get together with the giving caring female lovers the world would be a much happier place.

From what I'm seeing here, he is being completely absolutely unreasonable. He wants you to service his sexual needs, but will do almost nothing for you.

There is nothing wrong with doing sexual favors for someone you love - its the nicest give you can do - but is needs to be mutual. Sometimes you do special favors for him, sometimes he does them for you, and most of the time it is mutual lovemaking.

You shouldn't be treated like crap and you do deserve to be loved.

[margie123]

I do love him very much, I guess alot of this is from when I cheated on him when we were apart for 1 year. So even though he said he forgives me, I think he does these thing to get me back, to make me feel like he did, unwaned, disrespected, steped on.
He owns a business so I have found that he feels he is a powerful person. He did say once he hopes i suffer till age 161, & at age 160 he dies so I can feel the pain of loosing him. Things have been good all week, I did start taking medication for depression(which is in my family) Before All this **************** I never had a problem. He has said so many hateful things to me, & it's hard for me to shake them. He said in our last fight my family was a bunch of looser, when I brought it up to him the next day, he said ya, well it depends on the context I used when I said it, what the hell does that matter he said it. He is not very good a apologizes, he kinda dances around it, but never comes out & says it. I think one of these times, I will just blurt out lets got a divorce, & once I say it, believe me, he will go thru with it. But I do love him, and I feel alot of this anger is my fault, so it's hard for me to argue the facts against me.