[GentileBen]

I'm curious to know how many women have had an orgasm in their lives ?

My personal experience is that orgasm is very rare, and very hard to achieve with my partner.

I have only ever been with three women who have had an orgasm, of the three only one had a really intense orgasm that was significanlty different to anthing that I have ever experienced before or after.

So if you don't achieve it in your life its understandable because orgasms seems to be illusive and hard to achieve.

If you're not sure if you have had an orgasm please see my other post !

Go here to get an idea of what a real orgasm is like just in case ....

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/5211-what-happens-when-women-has-orgasm.html

GB.

[mystique83]

I have only had a few orgasms(maybe 4) with my boyfriend. I only have them when i'm on top and he doesn't really care for it that way so I don't get to have them very often.

[Nightelf]

I had a pretty dismal start to my sex life and was involved with someone for six years that couldnt and didnt care to satisfy me. I became so anxious because of him and his expectations that I started being unable to cope with penetration because it hurt so much. I was convinced I was a freak. Luckily I could have an orgasm through masturbation. So I had an idea of what it was like. The next relationship was better, but I became the queen of faking it. I used to joke with my girlfriends that I would fake it so well I wasn't sure if I had cum or not. Again, my vibrator was my best friend. So this leads us to door number three. Absolutely mind blowing, earth shattering sex. This is only why I think it is like this for me, personally, but we have an incredible bond, I am very deeply madly in love and after nearly two years the sex is getting better and better. Neither him nor I have an incredibly high sex drive, 3/4 times a week is good. And it is great to be with someone who's sex drive matches your own. I am very lucky to be able to have vaginal orgasm's without anything except penetration, I ejaculate regularly and have clitoral orgasms easily too. He is very interested in making me happy, the very sight of him turns me on and I know he loves me and accepts me for who I am and for me these are the buttons that I need pushed. I know it is different with all women. I regularly have more than 2 orgasms per session, it also helps that I dont take long to climax. It is almost like my body has been trained to orgasm now and it is so much easier, I dont think about it, to tell the truth I dont even know what my own name is in the moment of climax And I have no interest in the vibrator anymore because the quality is not as good as the orgasm I have with him.

[GentileBen]

I have only had a few orgasms(maybe 4) with my boyfriend. I only have them when i'm on top and he doesn't really care for it that way so I don't get to have them very often.

Oh that's a pity because experiencing orgasm with a women is just so incredible.

Life is so short and precious, why not make the most of it, people work hard at their careers, so why not give orgasm a chance - **** its free and it really does make you both feel so wonderful !!!

[GentileBen]

I had a pretty dismal start to my sex life and was involved with someone for six years that couldnt and didnt care to satisfy me. I became so anxious because of him and his expectations that I started being unable to cope with penetration because it hurt so much. I was convinced I was a freak. Luckily I could have an orgasm through masturbation. So I had an idea of what it was like. The next relationship was better, but I became the queen of faking it. I used to joke with my girlfriends that I would fake it so well I wasn't sure if I had cum or not. Again, my vibrator was my best friend. So this leads us to door number three. Absolutely mind blowing, earth shattering sex. This is only why I think it is like this for me, personally, but we have an incredible bond, I am very deeply madly in love and after nearly two years the sex is getting better and better. Neither him nor I have an incredibly high sex drive, 3/4 times a week is good. And it is great to be with someone who's sex drive matches your own. I am very lucky to be able to have vaginal orgasm's without anything except penetration, I ejaculate regularly and have clitoral orgasms easily too. He is very interested in making me happy, the very sight of him turns me on and I know he loves me and accepts me for who I am and for me these are the buttons that I need pushed. I know it is different with all women. I regularly have more than 2 orgasms per session, it also helps that I dont take long to climax. It is almost like my body has been trained to orgasm now and it is so much easier, I dont think about it, to tell the truth I dont even know what my own name is in the moment of climax And I have no interest in the vibrator anymore because the quality is not as good as the orgasm I have with him.

Well its great that your new partner is so caring and thoughtful, I cringed when you said it "hurt so much" because really it ain't that hard really to get a women wet with enough foreplay and patience.

I think the biggest problem most men make is not enough foreplay, most men are too eager to ejaculate, and this within itself should not be the goal.

I think to have hot sex with orgasm you need to be reasonably fit, because it really is like a marathon, caressing is quite physically draining after a few hours, I think you are fortunate you have a partner that is considerate enough to give you what you want, both of you will be the winners in the end, nothing worse than when a women is dry and a guy is inconsiderate as he clumsily tries to force it in.

Anyway enjoy !

Nothing like waking up for work on Monday and the sex has been incredible - you feel wonderful, happy and refreshed

[Nightelf]

Nothing like waking up for work on Monday and the sex has been incredible - you feel wonderful, happy and refreshed

Absolutely! Also nothing nicer than sitting at work thinking about the evening you have planned. I agree with you about fitness, also nothing destresses me and makes me sleep better than an orgasm or two. I dont have oodles of energy afterwards. I love just falling asleep in his arms.

[GentileBen]

Absolutely! Also nothing nicer than sitting at work thinking about the evening you have planned. I agree with you about fitness, also nothing destresses me and makes me sleep better than an orgasm or two. I dont have oodles of energy afterwards. I love just falling asleep in his arms.

Oh that's lovely !!!

Yeah I know what you mean, that in itself is a strategy I use to increase the sexual excitement - by the time Friday comes she's on fire !!! He he

[inquisitive1]

Hey GentileBen-
Oh YES, yes I have had orgasms, mild to I touched the face of God! Usually closer to the latter. I usually have them with every attempt. What joy what rapture!! Be Blessed!!!

[GentileBen]

Hey GentileBen-
Oh YES, yes I have had orgasms, mild to I touched the face of God! Usually closer to the latter. I usually have them with every attempt. What joy what rapture!! Be Blessed!!!

He he

That night was one I will never forget, it really did change the way I perceived sex and just how lacking average sex really is.

One day maybe people will realise that the way we live and what we value is not ideal.

[inlovagin]

[quote=Nightelf;19117]So this leads us to door number three. Absolutely mind blowing, earth shattering sex. This is only why I think it is like this for me, personally, but we have an incredible bond, I am very deeply madly in love and after nearly two years the sex is getting better and better.]

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