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[quote=inquisitive1;20159]

Hey CarolineWH-
I am still laughing! That was way too funny! I still don't know if you agreed with my comment or I just got served. Still just as funny though! Ouch, now my head hurts

No, I agree with you 1000000000000%. You wonder what are they going to think of next. Sometimes you wonder if we should be in the cage at the zoo and the animals looking at us. This boredom when they are this young???????Wait until they get old and feeble.....Take care, Caroline.......

[inquisitive1]

[quote=CarolineWH;20160]

No, I agree with you 1000000000000%. You wonder what are they going to think of next. Sometimes you wonder if we should be in the cage at the zoo and the animals looking at us. This boredom when they are this young???????Wait until they get old and feeble.....Take care, Caroline.......

Ah yes, youth. I wouldn't do it again if you paid me to. Unless of course I could know then at least what I know now, if not more! I don't think I want to know what they'll think of next. I thought we were on the same page, but these days you never know. Something as simple as a bible reference can set some people off.

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[quote=inquisitive1;20162]

Ah yes, youth. I wouldn't do it again if you paid me to. Unless of course I could know then at least what I know now, if not more! I don't think I want to know what they'll think of next. I thought we were on the same page, but these days you never know. Something as simple as a bible reference can set some people off.

I know....Sometimes you feel you have to go around with a zipper on your mouth and mumble to make sure that it will be taken right before you speak in terms that people can understand and it will not offend someone.....Would I want to go through child rearing again......Not on your life.....Never even thought of such a thing as inviting another woman for sex with us years ago. But then I suppose my husband would have been fearful of ever even thinking of this. Without a doubt I would have casterated him on the spot....even though I adore him.....

[inlovagin]

[quote=inquisitive1;20162]

Ah yes, youth. I wouldn't do it again if you paid me to. Unless of course I could know then at least what I know now, if not more! I don't think I want to know what they'll think of next. I thought we were on the same page, but these days you never know. Something as simple as a bible reference can set some people off.

I am confused this statement seems to be a direct contridiction to your toomstone.

I thought that Nlove21 was looking for advice on how to pick a third. To me it would seem that she already has her mind made up. So my question would be are you trying keep her from getting on the road she has already placed in front of her or are you going to help her keep from getting in a car wreck at the end of that road?

[inquisitive1]

[quote=CarolineWH;20188]

I know....Sometimes you feel you have to go around with a zipper on your mouth and mumble to make sure that it will be taken right before you speak in terms that people can understand and it will not offend someone.....Would I want to go through child rearing again......Not on your life.....Never even thought of such a thing as inviting another woman for sex with us years ago.

But then I suppose my husband would have been fearful of ever even thinking of this. Without a doubt I would have casterated him on the spot....even though I adore him.....

Caroline-
How true how true!

[inlovagin]

One dudes experience:
I have had two threesomes in my young dumb and full of cum stage. None of which were with my wife of seven years. The first time I was 19yr old it was with a girl that I was dating and her friend I never asked for it. It just kinda happened. A couple days later the girl I was dating did tell me that it bothered her a little to have her friend with us. But they did remain friends long after our relationship was over. We departed on a good note.

The second time was two dudes and one girl. I was 21yrs old. Myself and the other dude have been best frends for 10yrs. Just to keep the thoughts down, I never touched him and he never touched me. From that experience I can tell you that it was very noticable who gave the woman more enjoyment. We met the girl at a club and found out that she was a stripper. That was the first sexual experience with this woman and I even ended up dating her for about a year.
Even though I would never do anything like that now or in the future I beleave that every experience in my life has happened for a reason so I would never trade the good or the bad nor will I ever hold regrets for my desitions.

Nlove21; if you have already set your mind to doing this then from what I know now I would tell you to pick a less attractive woman that both of you do not know and hopefully will never see again. You and your BF are emotionally attached and if you add in some one you know or see often then all it will take is one sound or somemovements that your BF does while with her and has never done with you. You will notice it. If you walk away wordering how he feel about her, the next road you build will mostlikely be filled with resentment and argument or a complete detour.

[bellababe]

don't do it

if you have even the least bit of a concern you shouldn't have a 3some. you can't do something like that to make your man happy. unlike some others here, i don't think that it is a bad thing but it could ruin your relationship if you go into it for the wrong reasons.
i always feel that your first instinct is the right one. you have voiced concerns of jealousy, no matter what you will feel jealous that you bf is with another girl, even if you are watching or participating.
the comment about finding a less attractive girl is kind of silly (no offense) beauty is not what sex is about. a very attractive girl could be terrible at sex and a less attractive one could be the best that you've ever been with.
you really need to voice you concerns with your bf and wait, maybe in time it is something that you could deal with but it seems not now.

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[quote=inquisitive1;20254]

Caroline-
How true how true!

I am sorry on the confusion on this answer. Sometimes my mind is working faster than my fingers which can cause problems. When we were young and married my husband was a hunk. Very, very big good looking jock. My kind of man. I would tell him, baby, you ever do another woman and I will cut your balls off. Just that simple. Not sounding like trash but sounding like a woman that loves her man. However, the terms of a threesome did not exist. I never really knew about this until a little over two years ago when I dialed up the word "intercourse" under google. You see I was sexually dumber than a brick. We only did missionary then. Boy has this changed. I can swing from the rafters now...Never knew what a vibrator was. Never knew about sex books....I could have lived in a third world country and maybe they would have been more up on life. But I was innocent......That opened my world to everything sexual. This was trying to discover why I was ejaculating water during sex. With my discovery my mind grew and has not stopped. NEVER did I in earlier years think of anything like a threesome or whatever. I was born in the era of very few divorces and few hanky panky. It was great. I am sorry for the mix up....

As far as mumbling when I speak...This I meant in just my wording on life.. Nowadays I find that with the newer generation that so many terms are sexual that I have to think twice on everything that is said. Things that were innocent then are not now so really I try to keep a zipper on my mouth for one reason. I am not supposed to be this into sex at this age. Yet I am. Yet I will be. But so many older people are not. This is what I refer to.

As far as the poster in having a threesome. I would say no. Why? You would cheapen yourself and what you are doing and really what is the thrill? And after this has gone it's course what? More people?

I find sex is wonderful but would never want to go to another dimension in life to try and get a bigger thrill with the man I am with. If I would have to go to this place in life than I would say that there is a big problem in the relationship and it probably will not go away unless the two of you talk it out and make some changes.

[inlovagin]

[quote=bellababe;20263
the comment about finding a less attractive girl is kind of silly (no offense) beauty is not what sex is about. [/quote]

None taken.
No one can offend me except my wife and that is almost impossibility.

I didn?t want anyone to home in on only less attractive. What I was trying to suggest is that something like a threesome for a guy is not an emotional thing. It is a lust or desire. Fact is that sex is ?generally? more of an emotional event for women than it is for men ?before marriage.? Now since it was brought up. The reason for saying less attractive is because it is one factor the men always put in on pre-marital sex. And it is very easy identify as a factor that one would not want to come up in the after math. To me saying that physical attraction is ?silly? is like saying women not wanting to have sex with their husband because she does not feel attractive is ?silly.?

As far as less attractive people being better or worse at sex, there is absolutely no way to judge who is better or worse until you get them in the bed. If you want to look for better or worse I guess the only way to try and pick would be go by the rumors of someone else. I have always been a person that seeing is believing and try, with all me will power to never (hate to even use the word but) ?judge? a person by what someone else thinks of them.

[C]

None taken.
No one can offend me except my wife and that is almost impossibility.

I didn?t want anyone to home in on only less attractive. What I was trying to suggest is that something like a threesome for a guy is not an emotional thing. It is a lust or desire. Fact is that sex is ?generally? more of an emotional event for women than it is for men ?before marriage.? Now since it was brought up. The reason for saying less attractive is because it is one factor the men always put in on pre-marital sex. And it is very easy identify as a factor that one would not want to come up in the after math. To me saying that physical attraction is ?silly? is like saying women not wanting to have sex with their husband because she does not feel attractive is ?silly.?

As far as less attractive people being better or worse at sex, there is absolutely no way to judge who is better or worse until you get them in the bed. If you want to look for better or worse I guess the only way to try and pick would be go by the rumors of someone else. I have always been a person that seeing is believing and try, with all me will power to never (hate to even use the word but) ?judge? a person by what someone else thinks of them.

The most unattractive woman could be an unleashed tiger. The most beautiufl woman built like a man's dream could be a pretend and highly non-sexual woman. NEVER judge a book by it's cover.....