[happ]

hi im 23 years old and im married. when i hav sex with my husband im not getting any excitement in my body and im not satisfied..but im getting lubricant. what does that mean?? can anyone tell me how i can get an orgsm.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

If you mean you're getting wet in the vagina then thats a good indication that you're aroused to some extent which is positive step in the right direction.

Get your husband to spend as much time as possible on caressing you with his hands.

Turning the light out and only having only natural light at night is best, people tend to be inhibited to some extent with there clothes off.

Do everything slowly and gently.

Oral sex of course works.

I think hand caressing is great way to relax a women and at the same time to arouse her.

If a guy can control his own innate want to penetrate then a women can eventually I think achieve orgasm.

Ideally I think one must get the women to the threshold of orgasm before a man is allowed to enter.

Caressing a womens body must be done in a way that is both gentle and slow.

Caressing a women with ones hands has a cathartic affect on her which is desirable.

Slow gentle gliding hands up and down the full length of your body.

Running his hands up the contours of your body and down again in repeated strokes.

Up and down, side to side, around and around tracing circles all over your abdomen, your back, your sides, the inner thighs, the outer thighs, between your legs, on top of your legs and underneath your legs.

Around your earlobes thats a sensitive spot.

Around your neck really slowly and gently.

So quiet you can only just hear the caressing.

Turn over and do the same again to your back and buttocks and the backs of your legs, ankels and feet. (dont tickle)

Again around and around, up and down, over and under, little caressing circles, big caressing circles.

One must realise its NOT RUBBING !!!

Its really gentle caresses that you would only just feel.

A mans hands must just glide over the surface of your skin and it should not be ABRASIVE.

Avoid breasts and vulva initially and then slowly caress the breasts ever so gently and dont spend too much time on them continue the caressing down the body, up the body in circular strokes.

The same for the vulva be very gentle and slow and don't apply too much pressure.

Don't ram your fingers into a women its pointless.

Rough careless thrusting is stupid and a waste of time.

Instead circle the inner opening with your finger.

Keep this going as long as you can it has to be a kind of tease.

Keeping teasing.

A think a womens orgasm is like a resisting a rubber band that keeps pulling away as you tease it more and more UNTIL finally it can no longer resist and finally lets go.

If your husband keeps teasing you and teasing your with affective stimulation you will reach a point where I believe you will finally let go and orgasm will be innevitable.

When you feel the threshold of orgasm thats when you ask your husband to enter you.

What will shock him is the clamping of your keegal muscles around his manhood but just tell him to relax and go with it.

The spasmodic, involuntary and rythmic contractions will send him through roof !!!

Its at that point you'll experience an orgasm.

You'll feel your heart pounding like a tiny little drum beating at 200 beats per minute its quite lound.

If its like what I experienced you'll be soaked with what appears to be sweat but without the physical exertion.

Its the wet fluid all over your body and highly like his that also makes it easier for you to slide up and down on each others bodies.

Afterwards you feel amazing.

Ephoria, an after glow, deafening silence (if its a quiet earea), peacefulness, tranquility, bonded to your husband and him to you.

Orgasm release oxytocin and vassopressin in the male.

This is what I think makes you feel bonded and loved.

Orgasm is a strange phenomena because its like being part of your partner you dont feel like a separate entity.

Its like your inside your partner but more like a fusion of your souls into one.

It really is an incredible experience.

And when its happened you'll know exactly what I mean.

It really is a life changing event.

Good luck !!!

Actually its not luck its hard long drawn out hand caressing to your husbands testicles are drawn up and painful.

Still its worth every moment of it to experience this wonderful moment.

Also realise you have a strange almost blank state of mind or some really strange out of body experience.

Which sounds bizarre but that is how it was or will be for you both when you get to that moment.






After affective stimulation of the ENTIRE body then and only then should one attempt to caress the genitals.

[DreamP346]

If you mean you're getting wet in the vagina then thats a good indication that you're aroused to some extent

Not necessarily. There are 2 mechanisms of lubication for women. One is through arousal and one is through physical contact. Even in cases of rape, there will be some lubrication. Its the body's way for protecting itself. Lubrication does not necessarily mean arousal.

[sweetlady]

Imaginary is a good way to arouse yourself and get some excitement.and before you start having sex with your husband, you can caress your self. sometimes i even can make myself orgsm.it is a very sensitive part of our vagina.

[kira]

I rarely orgasm without toys. It's pretty standard after sex for my husband to get out toys anymore. Some women just take more. It's also very common for vaginal orgasms to be extremely difficult so if you aren't arousing your clit well you may not have a chance.