[Euphoric]

There is something I'm curious about. As I have stated before, I guess I'm "a little difficult" in the orgasm department. Yes, I have experienced clitoral orgasms many times, but only with the aid of battery operated devices Sad, but true. It's not something that is a problem for me or my husband. I'm not one who absolutely has to orgasm everytime we have sex, although I thoroughly enjoy it. There was an instance, once, where I reached the peak of release and it was very intense. I'm pretty sure that it was a g-spot O, because of the rippling wave effects that I experience for hours afterward. I would LOVE to replicate that sensation again but we've been unsuccessful and not due to lack of effort. Maybe that's part of the problem And, no, we don't use the vibrating devices all the time. (Still hoping to achieve the 'O' without mechanical aids one day.

Anyway, I've read where many people talk about the 'need to pee' sensation and going with it. I get the fact that you can't hold back and have to let go and ride the wave of pleasure. But that made me wonder about something. So for all of you who do, my question is this...by letting go and experiencing ejaculation, do you find that it makes you stress incontinent, for example...like when you sneeze?

I'm not opposed to letting go, but ejaculation is not something I'm hoping to achieve, either. Maybe subconsciously I think that that could become an issue, therefore, I have a tendancy to hold back. I'm trying to find the monkey wrench in my works. Any suggestions??

[DreamP346]

The needing to pee sensation is not always related to female ejaculation. Many women feel that sensation before orgasm (doesn't matter which type). They do not have to ejaculate and most do not, after feeling the sensation. Its just one of many sensations a woman can feel during sex. Just because you relax into the sensation, does not mean you will squirt or have a pee accident. It also has nothing to do with incontinence since pee and female ejaculate come from different places.

[Guest]

There has been a lot of conversation in here over the years about the 'dependence' on battery operated devices and how dependence on them may/does interfere with the ability to orgasm naturally without them. This could be part of your challenge.

Try going without the help of any toys for purpose of orgasm and focus on just you and your body. "Re-train' it in a sense to only depend on what you and/or your partner can provide to stimulate you to orgasm.

Sounds to me like there is a lack of knowledge/skill/technique on his part. I am not trying to be a negative jerk, just trying to help both of you experience something you both desire. Unfortunately, neither sex came with an owner's manual when the two of you got together, so you have to figure it out for yourselves.

I have a book that has helped me a lot...She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D

In standard man on top missionary position, once inside you, have your husband move his entire body more up towards your chest so during the act of thrusting his pubic bone is stimulating your clitoral region. See if that helps any...

Try not to focus on the pin head tip of your clit but the entire area/region of your body.

Weaning oneself from 'battery operated toy dependency' can take time and a lot of patience since most toys were well designed to achieve maximum results...without the love, cuddling, fondling, stroking, etc.

[xftchina]

I started having problems with leaking in my 35s after the childbirth. It was very tired to take care of the baby and the family. But what mostly embarrassed me is the incontinence problem. My doctor advised that I should do Kegel exercises. I tried it, but there is not any improvement. Actually, the Kegel exercise is not difficult, but how do you know you're making any progress and, honestly, it's something that is easy to forget. Nothing seemed to help me until I tried XFT Pelvic muscle trainer. It is amazing! That little gadget has really helped me a lot. My urinary incontinence disappeared in 3 months after the training! I would like to recommend it for you if you are suffering the same problem like me.

[__s4mmy]

A position that can help, go on top and lay down on him shut your legs all the way, have your hubby open his, almost as if you were trying to do a weird push up use your toes to help you move back and forth against his body, and grab the edge of the mattress or bed frame, it feels great and will hit your g spot plus your clit rub against his body. Produces a really intense orgasm, or it does for me anyways! (Not too sure if there is a name for this position haha)

[Euphoric]

s4,

I will definitely give this a try. Thanks I know that some people say there is no difference in orgasms, but I know for me there is. I just want to replicate the intensity and wave like sensation that lasted for a LONG time. I'm game to try most anything, so no issues with comfort zone.

Maybe I wasn't clear in my original post. I do NOT have any issues with stress incontinence. I just thought that perhaps it was a mental block on my behalf. I know that a lot of people have this overwhelming urge to 'squirt'. That is not what I'm trying to achieve. Granted, if it happens, it happens. But that is not my goal. The additional intensity of the g-spot orgasm as opposed to clitoral orgasm is what I'm after. Of course, I'll take whatever I get

[__s4mmy]

You can alway try a position I think is called scissors! Both of you have your legs open like a pair of scissors.. You'll be on your side I find one side more comfortable than the other.. So play around with it a bit! Good luck achieving that orgasm! I totally know what you're talking about there being different orgasms! I think anyone who says different hasn't experienced an amazing orgasm haha.