[2big4you]

Hey, over the past few years I have had multiple girls who all had pain during sex, bleeding after sex, and a gyno tell them that they were actually torn. I go in as slowly as possible and have managed to get sex to work pretty well over time. Figuring out what works best whether it be extra foreplay, lube, vaginal dialators, different positions, etc. My real problem is that when girls see my penis at first they say my penis is huge and amazing. They literally can't wait to have sex, and stay excited for sex with me for a solid month or so normally. Then they basically get sick of painful sex! I can't blame them, but once we figure out how to make it not hurt, they just never get the sex drive back. They limit the sex to avoid the chance of hurting again. What's my best bet for trying to get them back into regular sex?

[jns]

You now know some positions are better than others and that extra foreplay and extra lube are often necessary. Incorporate what works with every girl from the beginning. Learn to tell when they are hurting without them telling you. I suspect that at least a few of them were hurting every time, but had given up on telling you, maybe due to your reaction. Maybe be less analytic and more emphatic.

[janieboo]

My real problem is that when girls see my penis at first they say my penis is huge and amazing. They literally can't wait to have sex, and stay excited for sex with me for a solid month or so normally. Then they basically get sick of painful sex! They limit the sex to avoid the chance of hurting again. What's my best bet for trying to get them back into regular sex?

There's a few things you can try:

1.) Timing of the Menstrual Cycle.
2.) Add more Lubrication.
3.) Invest in Thick Rings.
4.) Pretzel/Scissors Position.
5.) Reverse Cowgirl Position.
6.) Missionary Position.

(The source of those tips.) I find it quite funny myself how men think women want some huge penis but then it always causes a poke up really high, never a great thing. It proves again how adult films completely skew our visions of the way sex should be.

[SamanthaM]

My boyfriend has a very large Penis and I can not get enough of it even after 4 years. Trust me you will find a girl that can not only deal with the size but will beg you to have sex with her. Most girls want a big penis but there are very few who know what to do with one

[cathy23]

Umm, I think in a long term relationship you, "adapt" to his larger size.

[NubbinsUp]

If it's really that big and uncomfortable, you have to do what little guys learn to do. Please her a dozen different ways, and claim vaginal penetration as your reward (assuming she is willing) after giving her the foreplay she needs, bringing her to at least two or three amazing orgasms using your tongue, fingers, pillow talk, and imagination. No woman is going to lose sex in one monthif you'e otherwise an amazing conversationalist, honest and trustworthy, good fit for her personality, and partner in bed.

In-and-out is only a fraction of sex, and it matters not if a man has a nub or a club. If a club and a cute smile is all a guy has going for him, a month seems about right to me.

[lizzardb63]

My husband has a large penis as well and he said that he was never able to put it completely in with any girl he's been with...that is until me. At first, yes it was uncomfortable, but we had lots of foreplay and use lube and I adapted to it. Does it still hurt? at first, yes, but after the first 10 seconds that goes away because I naturally stretch, but we communicate a lot. If it hurts, I tell him. I either tell him to slow down, or his angle just isn't right, or he's going to deep (for some reason there are some days where he can't go quite as deep) and there are certain positions that help. Missionary is a good one for us and me going on top (I get to control how deep it goes and the speed), but the one that is the least likely to work is doggy style, but still do that on occassion, but that's one where I tell him exactly what I'm feeling. Maybe it would be a good idea to wait a little while before having vaginal sex...if they leave after 1 month it's usually because you don't know each other well enough and can't properly communicate. There's a certain comfort level you have to be at and I would find it hard to get there in under a month.

[Harmony]

I was always quite confident about the size of my penis until I watched a video on Pornhub with an actor called Matt Hughes (search Pornhub Matt hughes) my penis has felt small ever since.

Its interesting to hear peoples' various preferences. While I like big boobs (especially fake ones) I think part of the attraction is the novelty value, I think to some women (apart from the genuine size queens) a large penis has a novelty value too, that is to say there are particular things we may just want to try experience (huge boobs or a big penis for example) and may find out in practicality that they aren't exactly what we imagined them to be. Some of the best sex I've had has been with girls who were rather flat chested, I recently had sex with a girl who was a natural G cup (maybe bigger) and they were just too big to really do anything with (I needed both hands to try and hold one); so for me my preferences are not always practical and alternatives are often just as, if not better. Big boobs are more of a bonus, their absence is not a deal breaker, and it seems this is the same for many women with regard to penis size.

For the men who worry about penis size it may be worth taking note that many women simply accepted their mans size compromising at both ends of the spectrum and working with a penis slightly smaller or bigger than they may have preferred it to be.

One final point is that I have never (not on here or anywhere else) ever heard a woman say that given the choice she prefers size over technique. Perhaps it really isn't the size of the waves, but the motion of the ocean?

[a_dub]

I was always quite confident about the size of my penis until I watched a video on Pornhub with an actor called Matt Hughes (search Pornhub Matt hughes) my penis has felt small ever since.

Speaking of which, has your pornhub been working lately? The site was down for me for like 3 months came back for a few weeks and has been gone for the past 3 weeks again. Hella frustrating!

[Harmony]

No mine is fine, the site went down a while back and came back a couple of days later in a new and improved format and has been functional ever since :-)