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  • rcoreyus
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2007
    • 4369

    He sounds really selfish. Is sex the only problem (its a BIG problem), does he do all sorts of caring and loving things for you in other ways. If not, why are you still with him?

    He is welcome to desire whatever he wants in bed, but you don't need to be the one to provide it. Don't stay with someone who doesn't make you happy

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      What are these guys bringing to the table that keeps these girls locked in relations with them? If they don't respect you and pull their weight in bed, why not find someone else?
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • Guest

        If you're not worth a book, then he's not worth a second look.

        Drop this guy like a bad habit and find someone who will actually and honestly appreciate you.

        People are treated in the way in which they allow themselves to be treated.

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        • MoeJr
          Member
          • Jan 2013
          • 71

          Personally both of you are having the issue I believe because you allow it.....stop giving in !!!!!!!!! You know ?? We all know too well the cutting me off thing (as men) it sucks.... I would be willing to bet they will shape up... good luck!

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          • shoshannah
            Veteran Member
            • Nov 2010
            • 228

            You are jot an object that exists solely for his pleasure.

            If you aren't getting through to him, cut off the sex. Tell him you're not available until he starts acting less selfish. And then stick with that.

            One way to approach this would be to tell him one night that he must give you oral or something else you enjoy first, and then when he's done that you'll reward him with intercourse of a BJ or something he likes. get into the habit of this. If that's too much for him you shouldn't be bothering with him.

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            • curiouslady269
              Junior Member
              • Jan 2013
              • 4

              I know I don't have this issue. My husband is amazing in bed, and he loves oral sex. He has made me a multiorgasmic woman. If your guy is that lazy, sounds like it is time to move on. Find another guy who will appreciate you. Especially if you swallow! My husband would love you!

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