[moonlight1]

Hey everyone, please, don't make fun of me, because this is serious, I just wanted to know if there is any other woman with the same problem that i have. I can't cum. (yes, i've talked to a doctor, she says i'm healthy and I have no problem in the sexual area).
Srsly. I'm young, I'm 23 yo, i had only two boyfriends, not much sexual experiences, but i have this thing, and i think it's a problem, but i don't know... With my actual boyfriend, I enjoy the sex. Like I never did before. He does everything to please me, and i rly thank him for that. But you know that part when you feel you're ALMOST to climax ? After a while I feel that. But ALWAYS. and i don't pass through. I just feel like I'm about to cum, but i never do. And sometimes he get's a bit frustated, though he knows it's not his fault. But i get too.
Now, the thing is, by myself, I can do it. Really quick, if that matters. He tried to do even the same I do when i masturbate, but it's the same. I simply can't. With my ex boyfriend was the same thing. I NEVER came with anyone of them. And it's long last relationships. Anyone has any ideia or advice for me please?
Thank you very much.

[Ashlee T.]

We don't make fun here.

Welcome to WH. You're not alone in this issue. Doesn't sound like there is anything physically wrong with you at all. LOTS of women deal with the frustration of being unable to orgasm with a partner. The awesome part is that you CAN have an orgasm (since you have by yourself) so you are already a step ahead of lots of women. A month or so ago at a girls night of a group of women from age 25-30 3 of them said they have never had an orgasm. One of them is married.

The key is learning to relax, learning to trust, learning to feel confidence in your body the way it is. When with a partner, it's sometimes hard to let your mind go away from trying to look and be sexy, or feeling pressured to do or act a certain way. As long as your mind is hanging on to control, your body won't relax enough to orgasm.

There's nothing wrong with you.

[MoeJr]

Absolutely agree with Disaster, the mind is very powerful even if you don't realize it. My guess would be your wanting so badly to do so, or to orgasm the same time he does, your not ( unknowingly) staying with the moment instead your worrying about other things. Use that confidence you have knowing you can as a tool, enjoy the moment, maybe you two spend a bit more time touching, talking, etc. Relax the atmosphere, and you could see some different results. Good Luck!