[ItalianSweetie]

Hi. I have been with my husband for three years, however we just got married last October. It seems like after we got married he has been lazy about giving me oral. I'm lucky if he has done it twice since we have been married. He used to do it at least twice a week before. I give him head all the time (at least 4 times a week). I just don't understand it. I have tried to talk to him about it, but it goes in one ear and out the other, LOL. He tells me that he does do it, and says it jokingly. This is very serious to me. I am very clean, I am clean shaven, and I always smell fresh, so what is the problem? Should I stop giving him head, cause thats what I am going to do next. Why do men like getting BJ's but get lazy when its time to return the favor? Anyone else have this same issue?????? Thanks!

[Husband333]

1. I am sorry he is being lazy and not taking care of your needs.
2. If you keep giving him head then he will never change. I can't believe I am saying this but yes, stop giving him head
3. Try changing up where, when and how he gives you oral. Maybe dress up and tell you want oral while you are in a sexy skirt, dress or outfit
4. When you are alone in the bedroom and want oral be dominate about it. That might be something he might like.

Best of luck. Your an amazing wife for giving your husband head 4 times a week. I am jealous

[Harmony]

The fairest way is to just insist that all oral sex be done in the 69 position, this way it is being given and received at the same time.

If you do stop giving him head then I'm sure he'll come round to your way of thinking pretty quick. I've had GF's spoil me rotten with head (lucky me) and it did make me 'forgetful' when it came to returning the favor, though a quick reminder was all I needed.

[Guest]

There is a great book on the subject...She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D

As a huge fan and aficionado of giving my SO cunnilingus, I can't imagine that any man wouldn't want to every chance they get. I know I do.

I'm not sure that withholding anything is the answer.

Buy him the book or check it out from the library and he should get the picture.

[joannabas]

I'm having the same problem we moved in together 7 months ago and before that everytime we had sex he would go down and this has recently stopped 3 months after we moved in .I've talked to him about it if I've done anything wrong he says no and ok he'll do it but he doesn't its frustrating cuz I always give him oral I'll even just go down on him without me getting any intercourse at all

[rcoreyus]

Is it just oral, or has he also gotten lazy about pleasing you in other ways in bed? Does he treat you well in non-sexual ways?

I don't like the idea of trading sexual favors: I'll do "X" if you do "Y". if you are with someone you love, giving them pleasure should give you pleasure. Trading just turns some sex acts into chores.

[a_dub]

Can't believe a man would have to be asked to give his wife a good licking!

[ItalianSweetie]

I know, right? He used to do it all the time before. I guess I have to be more dominant in the bedroom, LOL

[jns]

I believe a lot of men believe oral is something to give occasionally, not every time. Some like to give oral every time and others do not give oral. Of the first group, a lot of guys seem to give oral during the romance phase, but limit it or quit upon starting a more domestic relationship.

Take charge. Tell him to lie flat on the bed with a pillow under his head. Then pretend to get ready for reverse cowgirl. Scoot backwards so the world is at the tip of his nose. If he doesn't get the idea, have a doctor check his libido.

A game for a guy who likes to give and get oral is to do 69 and see if you can get her distracted before she gets you distracted.

A guy should use wetted lips along with his tongue to stimulate as many places as possible orally.

[curiouslady269]

I don't have this issue, I have to tell my husband he can't. He always wants to go down on me!