[misspop]

hello there people, new to this but need advice desperatly! - first of all im scared of sex i have no idea why because ive been having sex for about 3 years and suddenly its just gone my sex drive has demolished and i dont care for it, now my boyfriend obviously doesnt like this and its ruining out relationship quicker than you can say bananas!! and i really dont know why so was wondering if theres anything i can do to help this? or is it just normal..
thankyou for all replies in advance.

[time2discover]

Probably need a few references first. Did something happen to make you scared all of a sudden or you've been feeling this all along and it finally reached the top? Did you enjoy it before? Let us know, and don't worry, many people go through different stages in their sex life because many things can factor in. The good thing is you're aware of it and willing to do something.

[misspop]

no nothing happened and it was fine for ages, yes i enjoyed it before i dont know what happened, i started to go on the pill so i thought it could be that but i read about it and it doesnt get rid of sex drive so im baffled. my boyfriend is the only person ive ever had sex with so its all new to me with all these problems happening.

[time2discover]

If you read alot of the posts here you'll see alot of women had a drop while using the pill. No one reacts the same. You could tell your doctor in this case if there are things you can adjust and hopefully that'll help. Also, try and find different things that might excite both of you and bring back the adventure and excitment. Discovering yourself and your partner is part of the satisfaction. Stressing will only kill your self confidence.

Just go and enjoy!

[jns]

Sometimes a drop in sex drive is caused by pain due to drying out or other things. Are the desires to hug, to cuddle and to kiss also gone?

[donnaatthegym]

youre normal, dont let anyone either pressure you into having sex or lay on the pressure,
you are you
if he has a problem with it then you know hes not the one for u
if he wants to be there for you and wait patiently untill you figureit out then kudos to both of u.....
if not tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.........

i have many years of experience
everything has a limit.

[kira]

The pill can definitely cause a drop or elimination of sex drive. There are a few hundred posts on here about it and I actually kind of liked it because my sex drive is through the roof. Yasmin brought it down to normal. If I stopped yasmin there wasn't enough time in the day for masturbation and no guy that could keep up with me. There's still no guy that can keep up with me but I don't masturbate constantly anymore.