[pixie]

MY MAN HAS THIS THING THAT HE WANTS TO SEE ME HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN.THE THOUGHT OF ME GOING DOWN ON HIM WHILE SOMEONE GETS ME FROM BEHIND IS A TURN ON FOR ME BUT I JUST CANT ACT ON IT.THE SUBJECT COMES UP ALMOST EVERY TIME WE HAVE SEX.HE HAS SOMEONE THAT IS MORE THAN WILLING TO JOIN BUT I JUST CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO GO FOR IT.THIS IS A CONSTANT ARGUMENT WITHIN OUR RELATIONSHIP.I HAVE TRIED EVERY OTHER THING SEXUALLY TO MAKE HIM HAPPY BUT HE STILL WANTS THIS.I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.HAS ANYONE EVER GONE THRU THIS TYPE PROBLEM?

[housewife]

God have mercy.

your man is not normal.
can you imagine spending the rest of your life arguing about getting another man into your bedroom??
if it happens (God forbid) then what?


I call this a modern form of cheating, that happens while the husband is watching .

don't wast your time with someone who has no minimum amount of joulesy, or even mandhood.

[LadyLane]

Constant arguement?! Sweetheart, if all that will make him happy is you doing something you're uncomfortable with.... do you get my drift here? You don't want to have sex with anyone other than him and he wants you to, and has already gotten the okay from some guy when you've said no? Um, this is upsetting.

[pixie]

what do you do when you've been married 14 yrs.?

[inquisitive1]

what do you do when you've been married 14 yrs.?

Hello pixie-

I believe deep down you already know this answer to your own question. Hypothetical situation: If your sister, daughter, mother, or best girl friend came to you with this same exact question what would be your GUT response?

It was not my intention to be evasive. It is normal to have fantasies. That does mean you have to act on them. If you don't want to it is okay to say NO. I will say it again, "I AM OLD SCHOOL". In the garden there was Adam and Eve. With no mention of Steve or Jane as a third party.

[housewife]

what do you do when you've been married 14 yrs.?

Even if you have been married for 60 years, the day your husband asks you to be touched by another man to satisfy his sickness, spit in his face and leave.
God bless you for saying No.

[rcoreyus]

I'm reading the original post differentl from most of you. The original poster seemed to say she found the idea exciting as well.

So - if you don't want to do this, DON'T.

If you want to, your spouse wants to, here is a willing third, and everyone will play safely, I don't see a particular problem with this. Of course the reality may not live up to the fantasy.

This is not an uncommon fantasy for men - but that doesn't mean you need to act on it.

[inquisitive1]

I'm reading the original post differentl from most of you. The original poster seemed to say she found the idea exciting as well.

Hello rcoreyus-
The tone of Pixie's thread suggests she is very hesitant and does not want to do this. Twice she states she can't bring herself to do it. She also states it's a source of constant arguing for them. While this maybe a fantasy for her she does not seem willing or comfortable making it a reality. One does not usually constantly argue against something they want to do. Therefore she has the right to say NO and not be pressured into it. One must ask is this more for her, for both of them, or just for him? I expressed my personal opinion on this subject. That's what this forum is for. Just because a thread is posted doesn't mean one's response has to encourage or agree with a behavior. For example: If someone posted a thread on better sex with their married boyfriend or girlfriend I would not give advice on how to make sex better with someone elses spouse. I would urge them to break it off.

[Still Nobody]

It sounds like he might be setting you up for a threesome with another woman, sometime in the future.
Unfortunately for me, I used to be friends with a guy who did this to his wife. They married young and he regretted not sleeping around more. He figured if he got her to say yes to another man in the mix, well, she couldn't possibly say no to another woman later on. I hope I'm wrong, but it's something I had to add.
Has he ever pressured for another woman to join you two?

[Baby]

never do it

Believe you me pixie that if you do it he i mean that your husband is going to hate you for doing it, if he ask you again tell him CAPITAL NO he don,t cherish what he has