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  • Miranda20
    Junior Member
    • Feb 2013
    • 4

    Is this normal?

    My boyfriend & I have been together for over 4 years. We have always been happy with our sex life. Lately, we have both been having to get up early to go to work. We both get home around mid afternoon then just do whatever our interests are for the night. We have always just had sex before bed, but since our work schedules have changed, I have been so tired so early at night that I feel the need to go to bed because I'm so tired. He on the other hand will stay up late and play his games or watch TV. Sometimes that's fine with me but lately since I have been going to bed early and he goes to bed late we havent been having sex. We maybe have sex 3 to 4 times a month. I'm 20 and is 21. I feel like maybe that's not so normal? I really want to have sex more and he knows that, but he says he's not in the mood or he doesn't want to go to bed yet so I say forget it because I can't stay up so late just to have sex. I drop hints all the time and he says hes attracted to me and that he loves me and I know he means it. I just wish I knew if there was a way of us having more sex at our age. Up for any suggestions
  • Bladyn'smommy16
    Veteran Member
    • Feb 2013
    • 618

    4 years is a long time to be on the same sex routine.maybe he is bored of it do something to spice up your sex life...

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      Do you both participate in foreplay?

      Maybe in the afternoon when you both get back and before you both get busy doing other things would be a better time to get amorous.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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