[MoeJr]

Most would be extremely surprised at how common of a problem this is. The lack of communication in marriages or relationships is huge. Including the initiating sex! Without any doubt it SHOULD BE a responsibilty of both. However in most cases it is one or the other. The most common solution to this is the initiator slowly start bringing up the topic, don't pry, eventually making it to a polite, agreeable conversation. When the oposite partner does in fact initiate sex, a simple compliment on him/her doing so will go a long way! Peace all!

[Guest]

initiate - 99% me and 1% she
success rate - 1% me and 100% she

so unfair

[dyunysus]

I have to say i feel your pain. I initiate almost all the time, my wife hardly ever does. To make things worse we go to bed at different times, so if i'm asleep she won't wake me up (as if i would care). I have never found a solution to this. However there have been times when we would have sex every day for a couple weeks. Then not for a long time. If you are in a committed relationship this happens in spurts, especially once you have kids. Good Luck.

[Guest]

hi dyunysus

I have to say i feel your pain

thank u so much, u r the ONLY PERSON WHO 'VE UNDERSTOOD MY PAIN in this foum

we go to bed at different times

same here

I initiate, 99% she refuses, i feel it is an insult nowadays, so playing safe now
im sleeping alone in a different room,good sleep, i know thats not a solution but i dont want a solution right now
i just want to be me for sometime

[Guest]

Does it matter? hi btw plezd to meet u
Never stop coming on to her.

[Guest]

If she wants it she will respond???

[Guest]

and i dont believe in luck, fate, karma, all that

[Guest]

hi artqueen,
if she wants she will respond
but that isnt fair
and we all have ego

[Guest]

success rate - 1% me and 100% she

[MDM]

Thank you all for sharing ideas and exp.

so it is common problem ,but seeking out to partner is the best way and politely.

One day, I had to create anonymous email and sent her some hot porn video , when I got home from work I went to the bedroom and started kissing her and then sex and here what I noticed.

She was wet
Her orgasm was quickly
She had like 4 orgasm within 1 Hour.
She looks shy.

Honestly, I enjoyed the feeling of here wanting sex and was one of the best nights we had !!!

NB: She does not like to watch porn only because of jealousy sometimes. We watch together 1-2 a year ,but she enjoys.

We all should enjoy to max and make marriage so hot in all means Sex, Romans and day to day issues.

Thanks again
MDM