[musicjunkie]

I'm 20 and a virgin. I have been dating a guy for 10 months now, and I feel like we are getting ready to have sex. This makes me nervous because during masturbation, I've never been able to insert anything. It's not an arousal issue, and I have tried lube. I have no idea how to tell whether or not I have a hymen. Could this be the problem? Should I talk to a doctor? I'm getting a pelvic exam done next month and I'm very scared it will hurt a lot

[Guest]

u r nervous

[dyunysus]

If you are a virgin good chance that yes you have a hymen still. This is probably what is preventing you from inserting anything. As far as the fact that it will hurt, every women i have ever known has told me it only hurts for a few seconds and then the pain subsides to a more pleasant feeling. However during your first experience be sure the go slow at first and make sure he takes it easy on you.