[Guest]

Yup we do this all the time!A playfull swat or a serious warming.

the only thing that concerns me is that I have bruised her and she does not seem to care.Is that not abuse?

[WildChild]

Depends. If she accepts it as part of play...You need to talk to Sinister Urge on this one.

[ThexMrs]

Quote:
Originally Posted by ThexMrs
Spank me!
Oh, yes... I love being spanked.
I love my booty being grabbed and squeezed, swatted, everything!
Mhm, mhm, mhm!

HaHa...i love your little MhM, mhm, mhm!
Thats my exact thoughts...hence my user name. lol

Lol. Thank you. It's just so good!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

HaHa...i love your little MhM, mhm, mhm!
Thats my exact thoughts...hence my user name. lol

Can't resist:-

Ecepting you are MMH MM not MHM

CW
haha

[rcoreyus]

The usual rule is Safe, Sane, Consensual. It sounds like you meet those requirements. If she enjoys being spanked, and you enjoy spanking her, then go for it. As long as you don't do any serious damage (slight bruises don't count), have fun.

Do be careful though that she really is enjoying it, and not just humoring you.

Yup we do this all the time!A playfull swat or a serious warming.

the only thing that concerns me is that I have bruised her and she does not seem to care.Is that not abuse?

[DrCathy]

When the lady is in charge, there are basically two types of spankings that she gives.

Recreational spankings and Real spankings. The harder or more serious version is only for the sake of punishment and discipline.




The other kind is recreational, and it’s not nearly as severe. This type of role play can also be an effective tool in getting better acquainted with her man. She may even want to increase the excitement by boosting the surprise element.

It is often a great type of foreplay. Or perhaps the lady is feeling stressed for some reason, and giving a spanking to her little boy eliminates her stress. By making him fearful, nervous, and anxious, or just seeing him squirm, will usually get rid of her stress. Because she is now focused on the control she is exerting over her man

Another idea is to give him a fun spanking, just to surprise her man or maybe she just wants to give him a friendly reminder of who is in control.




Whatever the reason, she will always pull his pants down, and if he complains, she will say: “I am going to spank you, not your pants.”

She will sit on her bed and tell him to lie across her lap. This way, she can feel his flesh and can easily tell if he’s tensing up, squirming, clenching his cheeks or trying other methods to fool his lady into going easier on him.




She always starts lightly with her hand and gets more intense as she progresses. She wants to see redness and for his skin to get noticeably warmer before she starts with her more serious spanking implements.

She might spend 20-30 minutes warming up her man’s butt. Sometimes she will slowly rub some soothing lotion on his warm skin before continuing with a more serious spanking implement.

Next, she will retrieve one of her spanking tools. Again, she will start lightly and increase the intensity very slowly. In all, she might spend a half hour warming up his butt. It’s at a very leisurely pace. When she feels he has had enough, she might just add one or two harder smacks just to confuse her man and keep him guessing

When she has finished, she will always rub lotion over the area slowly and gently.

At this point, she will probably want him to perform some type of an act on her because she needs to unwind and be satisfied as well. Her man should be very willing at this point to do whatever she wants to please her because he now knows what kind of trouble he will be in if he crosses or refuses her.




A punishment spanking is different because she will be sitting upright in a chair and have him bend over her lap. She will probably want to blindfold him so he cannot anticipate what is going to happen. The warm-up session with her hand will be more intense but may only last two or three minutes before she starts using whichever implement she deems he deserves. She will calmly tell her man how many snacks he’s about to get and why. If he argues or protests, his penalty will be increased. She will warn him against squirming or trying to cover up, and if he does so, she will have to increase the penalties. She may ask him to count the smacks out loud. She cannot be talked into going easier on him, even if he cries. She knows he will respect her more if she remains firm throughout this. And when it is over, it is over. All will be forgiven and forgotten. And she will use the lotion again to soothe his sore area.

The only difference might be that if it’s a really major infraction, she might have him lay over the edge of the bed in front of her so she can generate more power or speed. This should be reserved for only very major violations.


And research has shown if she is diligent and consistent with her recreational spankings, chances are, she will never need to give him a punishment spanking.




Cathy Benson, Director

Greater Akron Women's Center