[Waterbliss]

I think my boyfriend prefers porn over sex. Now I know most will say it's because I'm not doing something, but I look at books, tips online and everything I possibly can to make this relationship work. It's even gotten to the point he no longer touches me. I give him a blow job every time I possible i can. He says he really enjoys it but will never touch me or reach out to me.

I have been in a relationship with him for almost a year, so I guess I am a bit bitter about only being down on only like 3 times. (And only being fingered about 5) The most I get is sex, and that's after I get on his case about his constant watching porn issue. (Plus whenever he gets in the shower and tries to lock me out, I've picked the door and jumped in. = sex = thank god - and he admits he was glad that I'd join him, but still locks the door, every time lol.)

When I brought up the topic after I found out that when I sleep he watches porn. I was very annoyed because I can't stand the avoidance anymore. I even asked him, "AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG?"
He says, "No the sex is amazing and he LOVES it apparently - he says - MORE THAN PORN." He said that, "The feel of him stroking himself is nice. So that's why he does it."

And I'm okay with that. I honestly am okay with him watching porn every once in a while. But Not getting sex - because he isn't in the mood - because he wanked off yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that. IS too much. I just don't like going sexless and hearing I'M TIRED OR NOT IN THE MOOD. and then he stays up and yanks off or IS IN THE MOOD FOR A BLOW JOB and only that.

He says he loves me, and I believe it. I honestly do, I just think he has a problem.

Why?

He admitted he was in a relationship with his ex for 6 YEARS and all he did was watch porn because she went to the doctor at some point and found out she had some sort of problem and couldn't have sex. (Or something - I don't know the details. i don't want to get too much into his personal life, if he doesn't want to share) But apparently she stopped giving all together and he ended up doing the porn, and yanking after 2 of the 6 years.

But I've explained to him that I have a WAY higher sex drive, and it drives me nuts. At least I enjoy giving him blowjobs, but for him to ignore me afterwards - its starts to kill my want to anymore. i feel like I'm becoming depressed. So again, I've told him.

P.S - I've tried watching porn with him, but I can't get into it - I may have a higher sex drive but he likes watching lesbians and idk - I'm kind of turned off? So I couldn't do it. I've tried to do it the other way with a guy and girl, but I prefer the real thing - I can't get into it! I've offered to give him a blowjob while he watches sex but he says he feels AWKWARD when I'm there when he's watching porn.

Please help me, I'm sexually frustrated.

P.S.S I've asked him if he wants to go into counseling but he says he doesn't need it, as he doesn't have a problem. And I don't want to force him, or push him away. I just want to make the relationship work out!

[taramm93]

I think my boyfriend prefers porn over sex. Now I know most will say it's because I'm not doing something, but I look at books, tips online and everything I possibly can to make this relationship work. It's even gotten to the point he no longer touches me. I give him a blow job every time I possible i can. He says he really enjoys it but will never touch me or reach out to me.

I have been in a relationship with him for almost a year, so I guess I am a bit bitter about only being down on only like 3 times. (And only being fingered about 5) The most I get is sex, and that's after I get on his case about his constant watching porn issue. (Plus whenever he gets in the shower and tries to lock me out, I've picked the door and jumped in. = sex = thank god - and he admits he was glad that I'd join him, but still locks the door, every time lol.)

When I brought up the topic after I found out that when I sleep he watches porn. I was very annoyed because I can't stand the avoidance anymore. I even asked him, "AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG?"
He says, "No the sex is amazing and he LOVES it apparently - he says - MORE THAN PORN." He said that, "The feel of him stroking himself is nice. So that's why he does it."

And I'm okay with that. I honestly am okay with him watching porn every once in a while. But Not getting sex - because he isn't in the mood - because he wanked off yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that. IS too much. I just don't like going sexless and hearing I'M TIRED OR NOT IN THE MOOD. and then he stays up and yanks off or IS IN THE MOOD FOR A BLOW JOB and only that.

He says he loves me, and I believe it. I honestly do, I just think he has a problem.

Why?

He admitted he was in a relationship with his ex for 6 YEARS and all he did was watch porn because she went to the doctor at some point and found out she had some sort of problem and couldn't have sex. (Or something - I don't know the details. i don't want to get too much into his personal life, if he doesn't want to share) But apparently she stopped giving all together and he ended up doing the porn, and yanking after 2 of the 6 years.

But I've explained to him that I have a WAY higher sex drive, and it drives me nuts. At least I enjoy giving him blowjobs, but for him to ignore me afterwards - its starts to kill my want to anymore. i feel like I'm becoming depressed. So again, I've told him.

P.S - I've tried watching porn with him, but I can't get into it - I may have a higher sex drive but he likes watching lesbians and idk - I'm kind of turned off? So I couldn't do it. I've tried to do it the other way with a guy and girl, but I prefer the real thing - I can't get into it! I've offered to give him a blowjob while he watches sex but he says he feels AWKWARD when I'm there when he's watching porn.

Please help me, I'm sexually frustrated.

P.S.S I've asked him if he wants to go into counseling but he says he doesn't need it, as he doesn't have a problem. And I don't want to force him, or push him away. I just want to make the relationship work out!

Hey there, i know what you are going through, you've just described my situation perfectly!
Unfortunately it sucks! my boyfriend hid the fact that he had a high sex drive from me for a year and a half, so he could instead masturbate and look at porn instead of sex, causing me to believe he had little or no sex drive.

Eventually i busted him jacking off (about three times a day) and it was almost always when i was sleeping so in secret.

Im more than willing to have sex as much as he wants it, because i have a very very high sex drive, but he chooses masturbation over sex any day and i dont get it, ive tried new positions, toys, dirty talk and all the rest of it but the fact of the matter is he just prefers to use his hand, and i will never understand it. i thought most men wanted sex instead of masturbating, especially when its there ready to go whenever he wants it.. Id love some help on this aswell. cause it sucks. im sexually frustrated nearly all the time and dont wat to have to go anywhere else to satisfy my needs.

[vinnyt]

I think my boyfriend prefers porn over sex. Now I know most will say it's because I'm not doing something, but I look at books, tips online and everything I possibly can to make this relationship work. It's even gotten to the point he no longer touches me. I give him a blow job every time I possible i can. He says he really enjoys it but will never touch me or reach out to me.

I have been in a relationship with him for almost a year, so I guess I am a bit bitter about only being down on only like 3 times. (And only being fingered about 5) The most I get is sex, and that's after I get on his case about his constant watching porn issue. (Plus whenever he gets in the shower and tries to lock me out, I've picked the door and jumped in. = sex = thank god - and he admits he was glad that I'd join him, but still locks the door, every time lol.)

When I brought up the topic after I found out that when I sleep he watches porn. I was very annoyed because I can't stand the avoidance anymore. I even asked him, "AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG?"
He says, "No the sex is amazing and he LOVES it apparently - he says - MORE THAN PORN." He said that, "The feel of him stroking himself is nice. So that's why he does it."

And I'm okay with that. I honestly am okay with him watching porn every once in a while. But Not getting sex - because he isn't in the mood - because he wanked off yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that. IS too much. I just don't like going sexless and hearing I'M TIRED OR NOT IN THE MOOD. and then he stays up and yanks off or IS IN THE MOOD FOR A BLOW JOB and only that.

He says he loves me, and I believe it. I honestly do, I just think he has a problem.

Why?

He admitted he was in a relationship with his ex for 6 YEARS and all he did was watch porn because she went to the doctor at some point and found out she had some sort of problem and couldn't have sex. (Or something - I don't know the details. i don't want to get too much into his personal life, if he doesn't want to share) But apparently she stopped giving all together and he ended up doing the porn, and yanking after 2 of the 6 years.

But I've explained to him that I have a WAY higher sex drive, and it drives me nuts. At least I enjoy giving him blowjobs, but for him to ignore me afterwards - its starts to kill my want to anymore. i feel like I'm becoming depressed. So again, I've told him.

P.S - I've tried watching porn with him, but I can't get into it - I may have a higher sex drive but he likes watching lesbians and idk - I'm kind of turned off? So I couldn't do it. I've tried to do it the other way with a guy and girl, but I prefer the real thing - I can't get into it! I've offered to give him a blowjob while he watches sex but he says he feels AWKWARD when I'm there when he's watching porn.

Please help me, I'm sexually frustrated.

P.S.S I've asked him if he wants to go into counseling but he says he doesn't need it, as he doesn't have a problem. And I don't want to force him, or push him away. I just want to make the relationship work out!

hi there,
the bs about the 6 years relationship is stupid. you should leave him. just my opinion as a man, either not into u or his fantasies are not met by you, or maybe you are just not his type, but u r the best he can do. you should never accept the porn thing or it will only get worse, believe me.
you can return the favor, get your own porn with buffed dudes with big cocks that look nothing like him, then ask him how it feels

[LisaW1991]

Boy, I've never lived with a guy before, but stuff like this makes me want to stay single forever if that what's normal for all guys after they been in a relationship for a while, they just get bored with sex and prefer porn. So far, I never met a guy that said he rather watch porn than have sex. Seems normal for guys to look at porn, but it something has to be seriously wrong if a guy just wants masterbate and never wants to have sex.

I have met guys who are bored with their relationship and want me to have an affair with them because an affair is exciting and new. When I was a teenager, I was convinced a older guy loved me and was going to break up with his long time GF,but he never did, he just liked having sex with me.

[rcoreyus]

I think it is not normal for men to prefer porn to sex. Most use porn when their partner is not available, or possibly watching with a partner. There may be some who are looking for something they can't get from their partner, but it sounds like you are happy to do what he wants in bed.

Unfortunately there are a number of men who are addicted to porn. Here I use "addicted" to mean men that use porn in place of normal sex, not as an alternate when sex isn't available.

[muffin70]

I'm a guy and while I am not addicted to porn, I do look at it now and then... my wife prefers that I don't, but if I had to choose between looking at internet porn or having sex with my wife, then sex with wife would win hands down.

the reason I look at porn occasionally is I like seeing couples do things / positions..etc... that my wife and I don't do
For instance I like watching a couple have a '69' (my wife is not into that) and I like watching a woman bring a man to climax with a hand job / blow job or watching a man shoot a large load of cum over a womans breasts - again these are things that my wife doesn't really like

but if he is choosing internet porn over a healthy sex life with you then I think he has a problem.... and if you want to stick with him then you need to try and ween him off the computer...