[karlew]

Hi everyone!

I have question about first sex and beeling. During my first time I didn't bleed exactly during sex, but slightly after. After sex, I went to the restroom and I saw blood coming out of me. There was no blood in the bed, and my partner didn't see the blood in the restroom, so now he things that I lied. Is there any way to explain it? Is there anybody with the same expirience?

[momofthree]

I clearly remember my first time. I bled too, and was told it was because the hymen had been broken. Were you bleeding alot or just a little bit?

[karlew]

It wasn't a lot, but it was clearly bleeding coused by first time sex. But the thing is that it wasn't in the bed. It was a few minutes latter in the restroom, so he didn't see any blood. He thinks that if there was no blood in the bed, I wasn't virgin. He doesn't belive that I was bleeding in the restroom. Because how in the restroom was blood, but not on him or in the bed???

[BabyGirl]

Not every one will have a broken hymen the first time and not every one will experience pain and bleeding. You could of already broken your hymen.

Its semi~ rare these days to have not broken your hymen after the age of 17 because there are so many things that could happen.
Some girls are born without them, some tear them during sports, accidents, being fingered or using a tampon.
There is not always a lot of blood, sometimes none at all. Not every girl has extreme pain either.
It's completely normal. Consider yourself lucky I guess!

If YOU know you were a virgin that should be enough for him . He should Trust you not Mistrust you over the lack of Blood from your first time .

There was no blood in the bed and my partner didn't see the blood in the restroom so now he things ( Thinks ) that I lied .. Because how in the restroom was blood, but not on him or in the bed ?

but not on him

This Worries me.
Did he take off the Condom and look at it for blood on it ?
If you did Not use a Condom. Did he wipe himself off with a white cloth or check the toilet after you cleaned up , were the sheets dark or Light colored ?
Please make him or any other Man Use a Condom after this . No Condom = No Sex !!!

I would seriously wonder what kind of relationship you would have with him if he mistrusts you when you say you were a Virgin .
I would give him one chance and one chance only .

Make Him Google or Bing in front of you, with you ..
" Does a woman always Bleed when they lose their Virginity ". Make him Read it !!!

Tell him he must Trust you to be in a relationship with you, you will not Lie to him and don't expect him to lie to you . You need to explain that you both will need to discuss issues and questions in an Adult and Mature manner versus just automatically believing the other a Liar.

If he then still questions the fact that you were a Virgin.
He is probably not the " Man " for you !

[Guest]

hi Karlew

i totally understand the situation

and Baby Girl has said 100% right

i used to quote "sex is between 2 minds and not .........."

i think men should ask his wife or parter like, how she felt ,if she enjoyed it or not, may be way to improve and things like that ,
not checking whether wife bleeds or not

But thats is the belief in some cultures (almost everywhere in India)that not only men have but even elders after the first night examine for stains in the clothes,

He is probably not the " Man " for you !

but you may have to watch for some time i guess

[Guest]

In india men have this kind of weird beliefs

1)after having sex the god given energy dense liquid POWER goes to the wife and she becomes strong
2)after having sex one should sleep because that is energy loss
3)masturbation will cause diminution of vision
4)masturbation will weaken the knee joints
5).....

the list is endless

i don't know

[lcj14]

What BabyGirl said is completely right in all aspects. I didn't bleed at all my first time. Also he should trust you! Trust is really important.

[karlew]

It is very painful that he doesn't trust me. Even thought he is a seweet and wonderful person, whole this situation start pushing me away from him. I will see how it will go. We ddefinitely need to talk about that.

I will also talk to the doctor about my situation and why I didn't bleed during but slightly after. The think is that I didn't pay attention if there was any even very small spots of blood in the bed or on the condom. I just knew that I was virgin, so I didn't look for any evidences of that.

Thank you for your support!