[Kiaracampbell421]

I dont absolutely dont wanna do it should i ask him to understand or get distant or something plz help people can guys be understanding or is sex everything when u meet? i mean we dont even tal or watch movie or anything and just jump onto sex
When he comes cuz we cant go out right now my leg is injured but i still have sex with him just to plz my man although it hurts i gave him my virginty cant he make any exceptions too?

He brings that up alot and jokingly laughs it off as i show no interest he has never had anal sex before but he did have normal sex i was a virgin till i met him and we had sex now only after awhile he wants to try anal we both love each other been together for 5 months
I tell him not yet and he says i can wait but its kinda like makin me feel is that all he wants is sex i mean i love it when he talks dirty or anything about our sex life just not anal i can never do it i want to cry cuz i cant seem to enjoy our relationship anymore
Well we like to roleplay and stuff so hes like "I'm playin with my self right now i would love a pic of u i said later he said ok knowing i wont do it cuz i never have and then he said im pretty sure u miss my ******** its been a while"

We haven't seen each other for three weeks cuz he said his car was totaled and that he gotta get a new one now he says that his friend said its fixable

He was a little distant past weeks now hes fine
But still

Heres our convo from today!! Plz read

Idk how to reply i dont wanna lose him but i want him to understand i wanna write a long text explaining how i feel could u plz help me write one? How to find out if hes in only for sex ??? We have a good sex Everytime he comes over even if im on my periods i pleasure him
He was in a relationship before me and never had sex for 4 yrs why not me?? does he not love me or what does he just wanna try something new

Convo--- this time hes just pushy before we'd laugh it off when i said no or late

Him:I'll be raping u so ill do w/e I want

Me:Oh sure except for the D in the A

Him: haha anything possible

Me : nooo

Him: mhm
Him:I bet u would like it after the first couple of time

Me:Lol i don't think so

Him: you liked my finger and rubbing there

Me : that was just your finger im just not ready for that

Him:Yeah but u like my thing soooo... U should like it after the first couple of times lol

Me: Haha well not yet though baby

Him:Well seeeee
Him:Hehe>
Ill be easy on u if that day ever comes

Me : u better be

Him: Oh I will bc I want u to like it the first time and want more of it

Me:Hahah oh just thinking about it makes me think how much it will hurt

Him:It's gonna feel good to me bc it's going to be super tight and I dnt hv to wear a condom

Me:Is that okay for u to wait?

Him:sure

Me: ok

Him:But if he some how makes his way there I can't help it

[Little]

It sounds like he's going to do it whether you say okay or not. Joking about forcing you to have sex or raping you is not okay. It shows a total lack of respect of you.

In your shoes, I would say plain and clear "I do not want to have anal sex and I don't want to talk about it anymore. If I change my mind, I'll let you know. If you put your penis in my butt, I will press charges."

[azalea]

Joking about raping you is NOT OKAY. That is only going to be a joke for so long before he starts taking it seriously. Fro mthe conversation, it sounds like he is totally fixated on sex. You're being very clear about the fact that you don't want to do it, but he is insisting that you'll do it. That is a huge red flag. I don't think your post talked about what kind of relationship you're in with him - committed relationship? Friends with benefits? Regardless of what your relationship with him is, you need to re-evaluate it, because I don't think you're safe with him. I've heard stories of girls in similar situations where the guy was very persistent about wanting anal sex, and the girl consistently refused, until she was eventually raped.

In your conversation with him, you said said that you were worried about how much it would hurt, and his response was "Well it will feel really good for me." That's incredibly selfish. He has no regard for your wishes or safety, only his own pleasure. I say get out of this relationship before he ends up using force.

[lavi]

Hey,

Preferences in sex depends on person to person. Some like anal & some dont & some cant even think abt it. Its ok to not like it and ue partner should understand this.
My boyfriend also wanted to have anal sex...he asked me so many times ..so I thought-ya..we can try ..but that was so painful for me as we did not use any lubricant(yes,we were stupid).I started crying like anything.
After that we never tried...he asked agn ..this time with lubricant..Bt now its a total NO fr me.

Now he nevr ask for it.

If u dont want it, say a strict NO to ur BF & not jokingly bt seriously.

[Mia123]

Hey from my experience I WOULD NOT do anal. It's terrible. You can get stds, Uti's and other diseases way more easily. Everytime that I've done anal I have gotten a uti. They are 100% not fun. It's up to you though. I strongly recommend not to my boyfriend does the same about the "raping" thing but I've told him straight up I'm done talking about this I prefer the regular way. Good luck girl!

[BabyGirl]

I Sooo very hard ..
Try to Avoid posting on Anal Threads, having been Raped from age 9-13, Vaginally, Anally,Orally and forced to do Oral. It just Screams Bad Memories.

But at nearing 60 years of age and sites like this that it is now not " Taboo " to discuss .

You have the Right to say NO !!
You have the Right to be Protected and Self Protect yourself from Rape of any kind .

Some of your Statements just make me want to Cry and Hide in the " Hole " of Despair that I lived in. Long before the Internet or Online anything, Long before you could Speak Out and say NO without Repercussions .
And some Anger me and have me trying to Help others say NO .

It is Your Body , He does not Own it .. You DO !!
He may not take any part of Your Body and do what he wishes with it . He May Not Force or Coerce you ,he has no Rights to Demand any part of Your Body.You are Not his Possession to use at Will .

If you wish to freely give up your Lips,your Vagina,your Hands to please him, that is your Decision and Right to Do so .

Him:It's gonna feel good to me because it's going to be super tight and I don't have to wear a condom

This is one of the Stupidest Things to say ..
I don't have to use a Condom ?
Seriously, does He know the Anus has more Germs and Disease causing Bacteria in it than actually Picking up Dog, Cat,Bird, Cow Poop with your Bare hands ?

Does he not know that the Skin and Membranes on the Penis are so much thinner than the ones on your hands ? And so are the Vaginal ones ..That is why they are so Soft .. And also why We , Humans get so many " Diseases ".
There are no Animals, ( Mammals ) on Earth that Procreate Anally.
Even Sea Creatures ( most ) do it..By menstrual egg release and Fertilization by Male without Entering .

This Fascination of his Getting it in a Tighter hole,
Is Disguised as an Inadequate Self Performance belief that they Must not spend the Emotions and Time to experiment with a Willing Partner that they actually Love and Care for to Try with Permission and Gratification of Both any " New Sexual Activities ".
And then Respect them enough and Love them Enough to accept the Word NO !

Personally, I'd tell him where to " Get Off ". But then PETA or The Court of Laws might step in on his use of a " Tight Hole ".



Told you .. I should not be Commenting on this Anus Subject.
But Girlfriend,
Respect your Own Word NO.
He's a an "Anal Hole that Feces Comes out of " in my mind. He should Use a Condom and if it's Long enough, use the Tight "Anal Hole that feces come out " of that he has on himself or let some other Break him in >> ~~~~>
Then again, Personally I don't know him or you , so we can call him a Richard Donkey ?
Spell check here .

[Running Mama]

Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex. If you are not interested in trying anal sex than you likely wouldn't enjoy it. Having sex should be about you and your partner exploring together, not one person forcing another to do something they don't like. That is rape and illegal.

[Harmony]

It sounds to me like he's fully aware of the fact you are afraid to lose him, and he is exploiting that mercilessly. This guy most probably derived a large degree of perverse pleasure by relieving you of your virginity and now sounds eager to take your anal chastity too.

If he had a sore penis (say he caught it in his zipper and cut his foreskin or something) would you pressure him to have sex irrespective of his physical and emotional condition and with no regard for his discomfort.

You need to get a LOT more assertive with this guy, and let him know EXACTLY where the boundaries are. Don't be afraid to make waves and tell him on no uncertain terms that if he's not happy with regular sex he can feel free to go and relieve himself.

If I approached you in the street and started touching your bottom and then tried to stick my finger into your anus whilst telling you I wanted to stick my penis in there after you'd (rightfully) call the police
Your BF should have more respect for you than a faceless internet stranger. He should respect you and respect your boundaries, like me, and like a stranger, he isn't allowed to just go 'sticking things' wherever he feels like, and the rule should be no more relaxed for him, and the punishment no more lenient. You're what sounds like a vulnerable young girl, no one sticks anything anywhere you don't want them too, got it? If they wont stop pressuring you then dump them, they're not worth it no matter what you believe or what they say, trust me. If he still can't take no for an answer then call the police, I hear there are plenty of men in prison who'll help him explore his anal fantasies ;-)

[MoeJr]

Oh boy I'm gonna get it for this one but ...... Once they start to have sex a slip in the wrong direction would be questionably illegal (meaning a very difficult rape scenario). Whewww OK thats out of the way. Huge lack of respect here girl. DO NOT STAND FOR THIS ! have more respect for yourself, your beliefs, what you like and don't like, and do not let anyone con, convince, beg, plead, whatever otherwise. Put your foot on the ground and say enough is enough! best wishes to you!

[hot amy]

I agree with Mia I have done many things in my sex life ,masturbating with a man or woman having oral sex with a man or woman, wife swapping threesomes but I draw the line at anal