[jen1447]

I wouldn't be so quick to condemn anal out of hand. If it's not someone's thing that's fine, but when practiced responsibly, there's really no innate danger involved. I think the bigger issue for the OP is the coercion as relates to the anal question. That in itself not cool at all, but again it almost reads to me like the guy is pushing her buttons sexually, sort of a "you will submit to me" dominance play. That can actually be quite hot for some people, although it shouldn't go beyond the 'for fun' arena.

[Motorguy]

It sounds like he's going to do it whether you say okay or not. Joking about forcing you to have sex or raping you is not okay. It shows a total lack of respect of you.

In your shoes, I would say plain and clear "I do not want to have anal sex and I don't want to talk about it anymore. If I change my mind, I'll let you know. If you put your penis in my butt, I will press charges."

I completely agree with you on this Little it's wrong to push or force your girl friend or wife into a sexually act if she not comfortable or want to do it. As that is rape in my book period. I am a man and I never ever push a girl friend or my wife to do something they was not OK to do . I really don't know why some men have this thinking that women are property for there self pleasure it's wrong anytime.

[Motorguy]

I dont absolutely dont wanna do it should i ask him to understand or get distant or something plz help people can guys be understanding or is sex everything when u meet? i mean we dont even tal or watch movie or anything and just jump onto sex
When he comes cuz we cant go out right now my leg is injured but i still have sex with him just to plz my man although it hurts i gave him my virginty cant he make any exceptions too?

He brings that up alot and jokingly laughs it off as i show no interest he has never had anal sex before but he did have normal sex i was a virgin till i met him and we had sex now only after awhile he wants to try anal we both love each other been together for 5 months
I tell him not yet and he says i can wait but its kinda like makin me feel is that all he wants is sex i mean i love it when he talks dirty or anything about our sex life just not anal i can never do it i want to cry cuz i cant seem to enjoy our relationship anymore
Well we like to roleplay and stuff so hes like "I'm playin with my self right now i would love a pic of u i said later he said ok knowing i wont do it cuz i never have and then he said im pretty sure u miss my **************** its been a while"

We haven't seen each other for three weeks cuz he said his car was totaled and that he gotta get a new one now he says that his friend said its fixable

He was a little distant past weeks now hes fine
But still

Heres our convo from today!! Plz read

Idk how to reply i dont wanna lose him but i want him to understand i wanna write a long text explaining how i feel could u plz help me write one? How to find out if hes in only for sex ??? We have a good sex Everytime he comes over even if im on my periods i pleasure him
He was in a relationship before me and never had sex for 4 yrs why not me?? does he not love me or what does he just wanna try something new

Convo--- this time hes just pushy before we'd laugh it off when i said no or late

Him:I'll be raping u so ill do w/e I want

Me:Oh sure except for the D in the A

Him: haha anything possible

Me : nooo

Him: mhm
Him:I bet u would like it after the first couple of time

Me:Lol i don't think so

Him: you liked my finger and rubbing there

Me : that was just your finger im just not ready for that

Him:Yeah but u like my thing soooo... U should like it after the first couple of times lol

Me: Haha well not yet though baby

Him:Well seeeee
Him:Hehe>
Ill be easy on u if that day ever comes

Me : u better be

Him: Oh I will bc I want u to like it the first time and want more of it

Me:Hahah oh just thinking about it makes me think how much it will hurt

Him:It's gonna feel good to me bc it's going to be super tight and I dnt hv to wear a condom

Me:Is that okay for u to wait?

Him:sure

Me: ok

Him:But if he some how makes his way there I can't help it

Hello Kiara, dump this guy now there's is many other guys out there who will respect you in and out of the bedroom. When this dude told you I don't have to wear a condom because you can't get pregnant he's a complete moron you can still get a STD's from anal sex. I told my daughter when they grew up when you said no that meant no period. So he's trying everything to try and get you to do anal with him listen to your gut and kick him to the curb now he's not a good guy at all. If he can not respect your words NO I don't want to then he's only looking for his only pleasure and not yours. So good luck with this situation you are having. I hope this help you Kiara.

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