[irina.x]

hello, please excuse my words as english is not my first language.

I have problem with my new boyfriend. He say he cannot wear condom as it make him allergic. I cannot go in medicine pill as doctor say it is bad for me. So far we can only do oral and anal as that is safe for pregnancy. I have vibration toy to help me. I want to have normal sex with my boyfriend.

Sometimes his business friends come round as we must have party together. They are not so nice people and we cannot say no. They offer to wear condom and my boyfriend say no, only he is allowed normal sex. I can only have same with them and it leave me frustrated. They say condom not needed if no risk, do they speak the truth, I am not so sure.

How can I get normal sex for us? it very important to me

[DreamP346]

First of all, please wear a condom. If you boyfriend is allergic to latex condoms, then get silicon condoms. There's also the female condom. Otherwise you are at risk of pregnancy and getting sexually transmitted infections. There are other methods of contraceptives, but they will not protect you again disease.

Second, are you saying your boyfriend makes you have sex with his friends? This is absolutely not acceptable. You should not be with somebody who passes you around to his friends like an object. Does your boyfriend do the same with his friend's girlfriends - go to their house and have sex with their girlfriend/wife. If so, more reason to project yourself against disease. You don't know what kinds of infections he may have contracted from other sexual partners.

Also, please use condoms for oral and anal sex. You can get diseases from oral and anal sex as well.

[irina.x]

sorry, i do not know what silicon means. i try find out.

i know situation bad, we cannot help it, they are not good people. My boyfriend not want this too, he is always there to make sure they not hurt me. I not mind if it keep us safe from harm. I will ask they use condom next time, they should say yes.

[rcoreyus]

What sort of business associates assume that they can sleep with a man's girlfriend - is he in the mob? As was said, any form of sex can spread disease and if these men are having sex with you, they are also doing it with other women. Is there any safe way you can get out of this situation? I can see this escalating even further than it has now.

[Harmony]

Irina, you should go and get checked for infection at the hospital in case this men do to you infection from sex.

You're Polish aren't you?

If this men are his business friends then he's either charging them money so they can have sex with you or he owes them money, probably for drugs; either way they're using you as a commodity. If you're in London there is an organization called 'Project Poppy' which helps people like you (if this is something you are being coerced into doing. If you're doing this to simply keep your BF out of whatever trouble he's got himself into then he doesn't deserve someone like you if he wont even enforce the use of condoms. The part about you saying he's always there to stop them hurting you suggests he does have some control over what goes on. He is a 'pala dentka frajer'

I know this kind of thing is somewhat commonplace nowadays and many Eastern European girls work as prostitutes either as a matter of choice or against their won will but it is not something you have to do.

Forcing someone else to have sex (even without physical force, coercion counts too) carries a maximum life sentence in the UK, so this is a serious matter. Your health is also very much at risk.

[DreamP346]

Your boyfriend sits there and watches while telling other men what type of sex they can have with you!!! That is unacceptable. I don't care what culture you are from. He is not a true man and he doesn't care about you. Like Harmony said, he is probably getting something out of this, either money, favors, etc. He is basically using you. Let me ask you this, if you were his wife and mother of his child, would he still be letting other men have sex with you?

I would suggest you get out of this relationship immediately. It is just a matter of time before he openly prostitutes you. If you do decide to stay in this relationship, you need to be very clear what you are getting yourself into. Understand that this man does not love you. He will not protect you. He will use you as a tool to get what he wants. Make sure you understand that. Also, if you continue to have sex with his business friends, make sure you get something from it. Your boyfriend is getting something. You should too. I know this sounds like prostitution, but the reality is you are already being sold for sex. Why not get your share of that money.

As I said before, you need to always wear a condom, even for oral sex. These men are probably sleeping with lots of women in your situation. You don't know what types of diseases they may have. Get yourself tested and make sure you always wear a condom.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

hello, please excuse my words as english is not my first language.

I have problem with my new boyfriend. He say he cannot wear condom as it make him allergic. I cannot go in medicine pill as doctor say it is bad for me. So far we can only do oral and anal as that is safe for pregnancy. I have vibration toy to help me. I want to have normal sex with my boyfriend.

Sometimes his business friends come round as we must have party together. They are not so nice people and we cannot say no. They offer to wear condom and my boyfriend say no, only he is allowed normal sex. I can only have same with them and it leave me frustrated. They say condom not needed if no risk, do they speak the truth, I am not so sure.

How can I get normal sex for us? it very important to me

This makes no sense to me at all. You "won't" have sex because your Doctor won't put you on the pill because he says it is bad for you, you have a vibrator and you and your boyfriend only do oral and anal.

But, these business associates of your boyfriend attend to the deed with you, without a condom so you do have sex, without the pill and without a condom but with these people in front of your boyfriend who does not like it.

So what I don't understand is why this thread is about you not having sex with your boyfriend instead of why your boyfriend allows these "bad" business associates to sleep with you not one, but more in front of him.

I could say it does not add up however, I will wait for your reply.

CW

[irina.x]

Dear Chandler, I am sorry for you do not believe me, it is difficult situation for me. My boyfriend is good person, he help me lots. I was in bad place when he found me, he got me food, give me nice place to stay and treat me very good. He get in trouble becuse of me, he take too much money and his friends beat him badly. I offer my body as distraction so they do not make him for dead. We both want to move away, it is too complicated. I choose this to save us. I and not polish or in london, different country.

I am always checking I am safe, they have no cuts on skin and I have no cuts in mouth. Have many more germs in bottom, they have much more risk of catching disease i hope.

I write hear because I want better for me and my boyfriend, we want to be happyer in our sex. Please I only need advice to make us happy.

[jns]

irina, this sounds like a case of Stockholm Syndrome where your bf is the best of a bad bunch and you have little chance of escape. Can you leave if you want to? Would others be threatened if you did, such as family? Can your bf leave?

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Disease is transferred by saliva sometimes or ejaculate or direct contact skin to skin.

The risk is unknown but you would assume the worst.

You must wear condoms !!! there are different types of condoms if one type causes allergy then try something different.

The risk of getting a STI (sexually transmitted infection) is very real and having unprotected sex is crazy or very foolish or both.