[cookiestamp]

Need help and advice.

Few hours ago I just had a fight with my boyfriend. The thing was that my vagina dried out when he wanted to have the 3rd round (he had ejaculated 2 times). I told him that my vagina hurt when he inserted his penis. He turned sour right away. I was quite upset and we started to argue. I always feel that he becomes super nice after heavy sex session (4-5 ejaculations for him), but he becomes sour if I couldn't satisfy him. I told him maybe we should evaluate our relationship again before stepping ahead (we plan to get married by the end of this year). He said I was being too sensitive and overreacting.

I admit that my sex drive is pretty low, while his is huge. I always want to satisfy him even when I'm not aroused, however he is against the use of lubricant. He only wants sex when I am wet naturally. Maybe his intention is nice (he wants to have sex when I want it as well), but many times he wants sex when I am not up to it. I can't get wet if I'm not aroused. Even I am willing to use lubricant and have sex with him, he won't do it.

Pls help me. I want to become a sexually satisfying partner, but I couldn't boost my libido. I'm also confused about our relationship. Should we end this? I'm afraid if later I can't satisfy his high sex demand, he will be disappointed and cheat. Help!

[Rhonda14]

Sounds to me like your BF has issues. What is wrong with using lube? I mean some women need it. Also he is nice after he is satisfied by 4-5 ejaculations? Really, he isn't nice otherwise? Huge red flag if the answer is yes. Also he gets mad because you dry out down there well tell him to use lube then.

From the sounds of it you are a sexually satisfying partner he is the one who isn't. Sounds to me like he is only worried about his own satisfaction.

[jns]

Massive amounts of sex without lubricant. Where did he get that idea? It sounds like he isn't concerned about you at all. It also sounds like you are going beyond the call of duty. If he doesn't start being more concerned about you, I would rethink the relationship if I was you. Does he make sure you orgasm too?

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Lubricant shouldn't be needed if you're aroused but if your not aroused then he needs to be patient and if he's too impatient then he's selfish.

A women always takes longer to get aroused that's why a man must be patient the man gets rewarded with orgasm with the women if hes patient but if hes not then to bad he misses out.

Most men are just to impatient they want to penetrate too quickly this is the fundamental problem with all relationships.

I keep saying the is over and over again don't be to eager to penetrate that's not how a women will achieve an orgasm.

Spend three hours on foreplay wait till his testes are aching with pain then and only then should you allow him to enter.

You have to be profusely wet all over your body before you allow him to enter that's what the threshold of orgasm looks like.

FOREPLAY
FOREPLAY
FOREPLAY
FOREPLAY
FOREPLAY !!!!

Cuddle and kiss for hours keep teasing him and teasing him.

If you can be bothered to read my other posts you will get some good advice.

People are just too impatient they want it to be easy but its not you have to spend hours on foreplay I don't care want anybody says I know what it felt like and the only way I know that it works is hours of foreplay.

A womens mind know when the guy is caring and considerate and when he is prepared to put the time into getting her aroused they are both rewarded with orgasm and orgasm is just as amazing for both partners not just the women.

[caster]

I whole heartily agree you need to evaluate the relationship before moving forward. He seems to think you're there for his pleasure. And no lube? What does he think will happen as you age and it's required for even one go around? That you don't desire him? IMO the guy needs to learn a little more about women and sexuality in general, let alone relationships.

I get the feeling he's going to think of your body as his to do as he pleases if you two don't talk through this. He's being a prick, so to speak.
In my younger days I could go 3-4 rounds some times, but not often, and often my partner would be too sore to continue or have sex the following day or two. For him to want that repeatidly is a not a little, but a lot self serving.

The one issue for you to address is your mismatched sex drives, that can cause serious issues later on. It's doubful you can raise yours to his level, his will slow some over time but there will be a lot of frustration on his part. Been there done that.

[lizzardb63]

I use lube whether I am aroused or not. It just makes things easier and he shouldn't take that personally. Yes, please evaluate your relationship. He sounds controlling and verbally abusive. He needs to be understanding that you don't always want to have sex and he has to be okay with that. It's not always about him and he's being selfish. He needs a huge attitude change towards sex and how it should be in a relationship.

[BabyGirl]

I admit that my sex drive is pretty low, while his is huge. I always want to satisfy him even when I'm not aroused, however he is against the use of lubricant. He only wants sex when I am wet naturally. Maybe his intention is nice (he wants to have sex when I want it as well), but many times he wants sex when I am not up to it. I can't get wet if I'm not aroused. Even I am willing to use lubricant and have sex with him, he won't do it.

There is allot of Him and He in this and not much WE.
First Impression ..
Demanding lil Snit isn't he ?

I would also re~think this relationship.

Maybe you can talk him into using a Condom that has No Lubrication on or in it ?
He can Put it on without your help and decide whether he Enjoys the Stretch and Burn of plain Latex/ Rubber .

Then again if he won't have Sex if you are not Well Lubricated, will not take the time to help you be Self Lubricated or have you use some " Lubrication " to allow pleasure on both sides .
Selfish, Selfish, Selfish ..
No Sex !!!

I'd throw some sand in a Condom or get him a sand filled Pocket Puss and tell him to have at it.

I do however Love Casters Post .

What does he think will happen as you age and it's required for even one go around?

We older ladies ( almost 60 here ) tend to get wet just thinking about a guy wanting to have sex with us 5 times in a row .. Lol

Aww the Memories .. And not ones to be spoken outloud to our Kids .. Shhhh