[Deorwyn]

Help!
I've been faking my orgasms all the time!
A few months ago I started with my first boyfrend, and he knew I was a virgin. The first time he masturbated me I didn't like it at all! He told me to tell him when I was "done", so I just faked it He did it other 10 times and he always just went inside with two fingers and moved them inside-out, what mostly hurt. I asked him a few times to rub my clit, he did it for like 20 seconds and then went inside again. I felt every time so frustrated that I just faked it, then I always gave him a blowjob, thing he loved. He said I was amazing and asked for it every time. When we had our first time it was also very bad, and so was the second one. And then we broke up.

Now I started dating another guy and I want to stop faking the orgasm. My question is, how to do it? What should I do if I'm not enjoying it? What do you do when he comes first and you didn't come? Or if you're taking too long and he's getting bored?
Thanks for your help!

[lizzardb63]

Don't fake it because they will continue to do the same things if they think that's what gets you to climax. Communication and being 100% honest and open about what does or doesn't feel good is what's going to make the sex better. You're not going to climax every time during sex and a man doesn't expect you to (unless you're lucky). It's more about what's going on inside your head rather than what he's doing sometimes. If it feels better to have him rub your clit, then tell him to do that...whatever feels good tell him, if it doesn't feel good, TELL HIM.

[jns]

Faking orgasm is never a good idea.

Your first bf was clueless on what he was doing. Further, it sounds like he wasn't really interested in learning, or else he could have used the internet to find out that most women orgasm most surely from clitoral stimulation. It sounds like he was more interested in exploring your vagina, possibly from what he saw in porn pictures.

Quit faking orgasm with the second guy if you are doing it. Talk with him and tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Guide his hand at first if possible. If he is willing, have him give you oral. The tongue isn't as rough as fingers, so it may feel better. Have him give you pleasure first, then give him pleasure back so you both have your fun.

Do you have orgasms from self masturbation? How long does it take? Some women take a long time, but if the guy is interested in your pleasure and is into your body, he should be able to stay interested.

[rcoreyus]

Please don't fake. He will never learn what you like, and if he finds out he will be very unhappy. Let him know that you have difficulty having an orgasm. If you can masturbate to orgasm - show him - most men love to watch and he will see what you like.