[Chrysanthemum7]

Hi. My name is Emily. I never masturbated when I was a teenager. I am now single and am almost 27. I have no sex in my life and am a virgin. I would like to know how I can masturbate so I can give myself pleasure without a man . I tried rubbing my clit and even tried the faucet thing. I never orgasm, it just feels good then it goes away. Can you give me details on how to masturbate? Thanks!
-Emily

[jns]

Maybe start by mood management. Find a movie that you find sexually exciting, find the particular part of it that excites you the most and loop it so you can have it play back again without getting up or worrying about it running out. Maybe a love scene you like. Take a hot shower so you feel clean and fresh. Put on your favorite scent. Lay down somewhere comfortable and reasonable warm. Relax. Try not too think of anything, rather feel the sensations. Start rubbing your clitoris until it feels good. Figure out how long it will be until you lose sensation. Quit after half of that time and spend your time rubbing your hands over other parts of your body that give some response, such as you butt, your breasts and your inner thighs. After a short time, go back to your clitoris and repeat. Each time stretch out the time on your clitoris a bit. About the fourth or fifth time, continue on and let go as the sensations build. Hopefully this will take you over the top.

[anonimousey]

Hi Emily,

It sounds like you're putting too much fantasy into masturbation. I have never ever been able to enjoy myself, by just rubbing my clit (or anywhere). You might just need some stimulation, try erotic literature, porn films (there's millions out there, you could be turned on by absolutely anything), inanimate objects, men, women, anything.

You may also have a mental block, maybe you feel that masturbation is a dirty thing, that you don't deserve to orgasm, or maybe you're just not in the mood.

I agree with the poster before me, set the mood a bit, feel safe, secure, relaxed and ready to turn yourself on. If you don't feel horny, you won't orgasm, there's no use in forcing yourself to do something you don't actually want.

I'm a straight woman and find male/female porn repulsive so I exclusively watch female/female porn. Women have gorgeous sexy bodies (as do men, but in porn, they're beefed up man cakes), you may feel more in touch with your body if you watch women move with each other. There's a great guy out there called Petter Hegre who does amazing erotic girl/girl videos. A lot of his stuff is massage and body work, it's so relaxing to watch.

I hope this helps you out, Emily. You're not alone in you're feelings, even the most experienced women and men lose interest in sex and masturbation

[Chrysanthemum7]

Thanks!

Omg thanks guys! I tried what you said and its working pretty well. Im getting close now and i think soon i will be able to orgasm! It helped alot

[jns]

Letting go and surrendering yourself to the sensations is the hardest thing for some people. Try to not hold on.

[jns]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/59153-women-how-long-do-you.html#post348115

Success?

[Chrysanthemum7]

I can orgasm now! it takes me like 30-40 minutes but I can do it.

[anonimousey]

That's great to hear, Emily.

Have fun! ;]

[jns]

As you figure out what works and what doesn't, you may be able to reach orgasm faster. Continue exploring.

[Running Mama]

I can orgasm now! it takes me like 30-40 minutes but I can do it.

Good for you! You can also try using a vibrator, which may help stimulate the clitoris easier.