[MEIS]

I have read through a lot of the posts on "threesomes" but could not really find the answers I was looking for. This is my first post, so please bear with me. I am a fifties lady with a husband nearly 52, who has now after a marriage of 30 years decided that his fantacy has been to have a MMF threesome. Never spoken about this before, but since turning 50+ I think his hormones has gone high wire. I really look well after myself and always get compliments when I tell people how old I am. I go to gym 4 time a week, and men (whom is known to me) normally enjoy having a conversation with me, but don't make conversation with strangers.

I am not really keen on the idea as I am a very shy person and don't know if I will be able to pull this through, but on the other hand I am a bit curious. Eventually I told him we can try, but I have such a lot of questions!

My husband asked me to browse the internet for men to see what I want. I really don't even know where to start looking for available men for threesome sex! I also believe not to use somebody that is friends or well known to us! What do you think??
Surely this is something that you don't have at your own house or town? Do you look for a lodged or quest house?
How would you know if the guy that you pick has no sexual deceases or aids? I trust they all use condoms unless you maybe know the person personally, but then how do you give the guy a BJ? My husband said he first want to watch & then participate, but how do I get started if I am so shy, how do I approach this? I really need a lot of foreplay to really get into the mood for sex, I am so, so scared for this, but as I said, willing to try it for my husband's sake.

Please help me with this!

[Harmony]

These are all sensible and valid questions, which all contribute to the difficulties you face when deciding to go ahead and do something like this. It is more common for the man to want an FFM, so potentially, as a heterosexual woman there is more in this for you if you can pull it off right!

Re the 'extra' man, I would the security and health protective precautions the way you would if you were a single women looking for a sexual partner. I can tell you that you'll find it easier to find a man than a woman if you don't have a friend in mind, so that's a plus.

What may be easier is to look for swingers and find a nice couple and explain the situation. You could start by going to a swingers (couples only) club and meet a couple explaining the situation that way. If you do it this way and use condoms for everything there will at least be no worrying after about pregnancy or STDs. The venue will be neutral and should be relatively secure, which provides peace of mind. I've never been swinging or wife swapping but from what I've heard the people are pretty normal.

the only alternative is to look online for single men and try finding one open to the idea.

A female friend of mine (we've only ever kissed, nothing more) asked me if I wanted to go with her, we never ended up going (and she's engaged now so I doubt we will) but we agreed that if we did go we'd look for other people to have sex with and try and find her an MMF (or more M's) as she didn't want to go alone.

[DreamP346]

Definitely research the local swingers club. You will be suprised to find how many people from your town go there. Also, BDSM communities have regular meet-ups. Even though you may not be into that stuff, people in that community tend to be very open minded with sex and many of them may be participating in the type of sexual relationship you are looking for.