[Avatar Nirvana]

Some of you may remember me being self conscious for being a 23 year old virgin. I just turned 24 on the 14th and 2 days later I LOST IT! I'm so happy and my boyfriend is SO sweet and patient with me! He really honors the fact that I waited this long to have sex. Besides all of that good stuff, I'm having a problem.
The first time he was inside me it hurt like hell, but I didn't bleed. It must have just been my vagina was tight. I'm noticing the more he does it the looser I feel, but it still hurts a bit and I can't enjoy it. I feel so ashamed that I almost cried once after he did it. How do I loosen up? I heard lubricant works, but what kind?
Thank you so much!

[Anunnaki]

Its more pricey but I always go with wet platinum its a silicone based lube its very slippery and water proof and the best part about it for me is it stays slippery all through sex and doesn't dry up like water based lubes. You an get it at walmart or any drug store by the condoms. Also I used to climax first with the help of lube, toys (not the kind you insert) and his fingers then he would have sex with me so I was very turned on and well lubricated! It will get better.

Oh and its like 13$ for a bottle I think...It lasts forever lol.

[DreamP346]

It can sometimes take a few times before it doesn't hurt for some women. Also, make sure you get lots of foreplay. Try having an orgasm just before hand with oral or manual. Also, try different positions.

[rcoreyus]

Lubricant is a good idea, also available from online stores if that is easier. (good vibrations is a reputable dealer). Go slow, make sure you are very aroused before penetratoin.

[NubbinsUp]

It will get better. Beyond lubrication, excellent ideas from others, your relaxation is essential. You may have been comfortable and ready the first time, but it hurt. Your body remembers that pain, and muscular bracing and clenching in anticiption of more pain is a natural unconscious response. You have to talk with him the entire time he is in you, or at least moving, to tell him what feels good and what hurts. There is no way he wants this to be painful for you. Use plenty of lube, have him move very slowly on the way in, and tell him when to stop and pull backward.

A friend of mine was married to a guy who was very large down there, and in 20 years of marriage, she always had to concentrate on movement and relaxation for it not to hurt. She described it as a careful "game of cat and mouse." He would thrust forward, and she would shift her hips just a little bit away from him each time he did.