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  • mitan
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2013
    • 3

    Descript your first time feeling

    I understand that not all girl hurt when lost virignity. Most of
    the them just said it hurt a lot but so far nobody descript
    how is the feeling. I am going to have my first time soon
    and I need to have some idea how the feeling is.
    Can you descript you feeling like compare to something:
    1) Vagina stretch feeling
    2) Hymen break feeling
    3) First penetration feeling
  • Element
    Veteran Member
    • Jun 2012
    • 308

    My man knew how to have sex with a virgin, so I felt some initial ease with that, but I was nervous. Pure and simple. He first put his penis at the entrance of my vagina; just lining it up. Then we kissed and fondled until I felt that I was ready. I had to tell him twice because he wanted to make sure that I was ready, then he thrusted in. I felt my hymen break, and there was pain. I'm not sure if I can fully describe it, it was just a sharp pain down there. It's sensitive flesh down there. And a part of that was just broken open. Your body is feeling this "intrusion" and clenches down to stop it from entering. I immediately put my hands on his chest, and told him to stop. And he did. He didn't move at all. I breathed deep even breaths to deal with the pain. In hindsight I should of relaxed my vaginal muscles, that would of really helped. But being caught up in such a situation I didn't think of it. It took a good minute, and God bless my man for holding still for that long. Once the pain had subsided I told him "ok, but go slow." And he did. There wasn't any pain during sex, and it actually felt pretty good. I didn't orgasm from it, but I wasn't expecting to.

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    • shorty325
      Junior Member
      • Apr 2013
      • 3

      Well, my boyfriend had only had one previous partner before me and she wasn't a virgin, but he did good. I was on top (which I think helps because it puts you in control), A LOT of foreplay first (he was a nervous wreck and didn't want to hurt me). I just kind of lowered myself onto him until it started to hurt a little (like a sting sort of), then held myself there until that went away. It took a good two minutes before I finally lowered myself all the way down, and there was definitely some pain for a little bit... It was a sharp pain, but it dulled pretty quickly. We took it slow, and he didn't even orgasm (I did!). During the actual sex there wasn't pain, it was just that initial penetration. I did bleed pretty bad, but thats probably because I had literally never had ANYTHING penetrate me before.

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      • a_dub
        Veteran Member
        • Dec 2011
        • 514

        So it seems like the sex itself doesn't hurt and its just the initial penetration.

        How big where the guys Element and shorty?

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        • Element
          Veteran Member
          • Jun 2012
          • 308

          I have a personal rule about not giving out dimensions. That's between him and I and no one else needs to know. But my man is a 5'10" 250lbs and there's nothing small about him. He knew to go slow and he was gentle with me. He let me know when he was going to finish because he didn't want me to be surprised about anything and wonder what the hell was going on. Whilst we knew the first time was going to hurt, he wanted me to enjoy it and he made it as perfect as it could be. I love the memory of my first time and I'm happy that it was with him.

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          • DreamP346
            • Oct 2011
            • 2053

            Originally posted by Element
            But my man is a 5'10" 250lbs and there's nothing small about him.
            OMG Element, your man has a godzilla sized penis. How did you even get it in
            Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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            • Element
              Veteran Member
              • Jun 2012
              • 308

              LOL. He's not godzilla sized. We've just found that I must be well lubricated before him entering. Because without it, it's difficult for him to go in, and for him to jam in causes me pain. And he's a respectable man and he absolutely hates when he accidentally causes me pain.

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              • NubbinsUp
                Member
                • Dec 2012
                • 43

                I can only describe from the other side of this, but I have been the first man for three women. The first of these was my first time also. I don't go around deflowering virgins as a habit. It just happened that my first steady girlfriend and I had sex (both virgins until then), and I married the other two women who were virgins when they began dating me, not at the same time, of course.

                The sensation of first penetration varied for them, and I was the constant. Yours will depend on your man's consideration and gentleness, his dimensions and angles, your own dimensions, angles, and features, natural or added lubrication, and your state of relaxation.

                With the first for me, she and I had both expected some pain and bleeding from what friends had told us about their experiences. There was no pain or bleeding, and she was a little disappointed, not about that, but rather that there really wasn't much sensation at all for her. She expected fireworks, skyrockets, and I was more like an extinguished candle's smoldering wick. :^(

                The second, my first wife, was also a virgin when we began dating. She was very nervous, bled more than either of us expected that night (but not to the point of seeking any medical advice or treatment), and she said that I was larger than she expected and otherwise felt only a little pain and a nice full feeling. This was before the internet, and she grew up in a remote rural area, and had only seen the penises of a couple of baby boys before in her life as their mothers were changing their diapers. She'd never seen an erect penis, not even mine, before the night we first had penetrative sex. I'm actually a very little guy down there, and she actually told me that she had no idea what to expect and that I was much bigger than she thought I'd be. She thought that my erection would be much closer to the size of a baby's soft penis. Like I said, before the internet, remote area.

                The third, my second wife, also a virgin when we began dating, had no bleeding or pain, and within seconds was saying "faster, faster! Go faster." Her experience was the best, by far. Still my wife, still good experience now.

                I do not know that any of them had their hymens intact, as I think all had self-pleasured themselves before meeting me in a way that may have disturbed that. In all three cases, we talked immediately afterward about what we'd experienced, as we snuggled, and none of them mentioned feeling or sensing their hymens tear or open.

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                • NubbinsUp
                  Member
                  • Dec 2012
                  • 43

                  Originally posted by Element
                  Whilst we knew the first time was going to hurt, he wanted me to enjoy it and he made it as perfect as it could be. I love the memory of my first time and I'm happy that it was with him.
                  Your description is beautiful and your good feeling toward him and your good relationship shine through. I very much respect your personal rule about discussing dimensions. It's a good rule and it shows how much you respect him, not reducing him to a number, even if it would be a big number.

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                  • Element
                    Veteran Member
                    • Jun 2012
                    • 308

                    I thank you for the compliment and understanding NubbinsUp. Along with one of your experiences I had also bled quite a bit. I had other girlfriends who had told me that they had bled and so I had expected it. It wasn't until I went to the bathroom to clean up afterwards that I found there was quite a bit of blood. I remember telling my boyfriend afterwards that high school biology didn't cover that part of the "talk" they had given us. We had laid down a towel because we had expected the blood, so that did help with cleaning up afterwards.

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