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  • vvv
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2013
    • 3

    Feeling the need to "GO" while gaving sex ..?

    Have you ever felt the urge to go to the bathroom..while having sex?
    Ive felt this before, and it ruins everything! I get tense and im scared i will go right there! it makes me scared to fully get into it and let myself orgasm. The last time i had sex, i felt i had to go to the bathroom #1 and #2 (embarrassing but true) So i was not fully into it. He himself even told me that i was "so tight".

    Can a person actually ever go while having sex? Or is it just in our heads?
    How can i prevent this or not let it ruin things?


    I guess i should have went to the bathroom before we started..but by then it was too late. (Would it even be cook if i stoped half way through and told him i gotta go to the bathroom be right back?? lol
  • LizziB
    Member
    • Mar 2013
    • 56

    This probably won't make you feel any better but... While looking on the internet trying to find advice on how to g-spot orgasm, I read numerous times that it will feel like you need to pee but you won't, keep going and you'll orgasm. (apparently!) I was trying it one time and I actually did leak a little pee, which mortally embarrassed and humiliated me, to the point that I would avoid any position that felt like it was pressing on my bladder. Mind you, it was in the morning and I hadn't been to the toilet, so my bladder was kind of full at the time haha. So yes, clearly it can happen, but I don't think it's something that happens frequently (or maybe people just don't like to admit it!) And I think emptying your bladder beforehand will probably safe guard you pretty well. As for number 2s, not so sure about that though on the occasion my bf has grabbed my bum cheeks and pulled them apart, and I was worried some softer feacal matter might escape haha. I would suggest just trying to make sure you go before intercourse, as it just helps you not to worry so much and enjoy the sex more.

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    • bubba29
      Senior Member
      • Feb 2013
      • 116

      ladies, this is completely normal for women and most all men think it is HOT. what you are close to experiencing is called "female ejaculation" or "squirting" or "gushing". it happens to many women and can be quite pleasurable. there have been scientific studies on it and the liquid that comes out is not urine. it actually has some similarities to male ejaculate.

      bottom line is, pee before you do something that gives you that feeling (sex and/or masturbation). then go ahead have fun, relax, and let the pleasure flow. you will not be disappointed.

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      • LizziB
        Member
        • Mar 2013
        • 56

        No, mine was definitely pee.

        On your second point I agree completely!

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        • Justice
          Veteran Member
          • Aug 2013
          • 204

          Bubba29 is right. yes urinate before having sex and then don't worry - but bring towels

          I used to just vibrator on my clitoris and could quickly (most of the time) orgasm from that - but would only masturbate maybe a couple/few times a month. Recently had met a guy who started writing me quick erotically stimulating emails and I have been aroused all the time.

          I had bought a few more toys including a couple that also stimulate the g-spot; I used to be too tight and had used dilators to be ready if I ended up with that guy. I cannot as easily orgasm the way I used to. But a few weeks ago felt much wetter and almost like a little squirt or gush. (I consider cuming different than orgasming) so I thought this was cuming.

          Well in the last few days I started reading more and more about female ejaculation which seemed more like what has been happening for me. (I had felt the need to push down when feeling full and getting closer to different kind of orgasm. What I was reading was that if you let go instead of fighting it, you can ejaculate. )

          So I got out the towels and started playing. O M G - while I have not had many of the same kind of orgasms that I could have with my little nobby vibrator about by clitoris, I like these a lot. Messy but great. It is like waves of pleasure as hot cum/liquid pours out (it is not pee) and you can keep playing and it can happen multiple times. I do not "squirt" where it shoots out, in my case it comes out in little (or a bit more) waves.

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          • ddaisy092
            Junior Member
            • Nov 2013
            • 4

            I read somewhere that you'll have a stronger orgasm if your bladder is full, but I'm a little scared.. you know, I'm enjoying, he's enjoying and i have an enormous urge to pee, and oops.. wet bed :/ so I usually relieve myself before having sex.

            But.. Lately even though I pee before having sex, after the sex I MUST go to the bathroom.. Does anyone experienced that?
            Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes; after that, who cares?! He's a mile away and you've got his shoes!

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            • shoshannah
              Veteran Member
              • Nov 2010
              • 228

              Sometimes if my bladder is full I definitely get the sensation. The best safeguard is to go to the bathroom beforehand, although it's also good to be able to go afterwards to cut down the risk of UTIs. The other thing to do is regular kegel exercises. In addition to making the sex better, it improves your ability to hold it so there won't be any accidents.

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              • ddaisy092
                Junior Member
                • Nov 2013
                • 4

                I do kegels, but I'm really scared sometimes
                Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes; after that, who cares?! He's a mile away and you've got his shoes!

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                • jen1447
                  Veteran Member
                  • Oct 2013
                  • 2380

                  What exactly are you scared of?

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                  • ddaisy092
                    Junior Member
                    • Nov 2013
                    • 4

                    Hm, I'm scared that during sex that I won't control my body and that I will pee. I'm pretty sure that won't happen to me and I know it's kinda stupid but..
                    Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes; after that, who cares?! He's a mile away and you've got his shoes!

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